Dear ObaaYaa,

There is a common saying that life is how you make it, and that tolerance and sobriety are qualities which will propel one to surmount difficulties in life.

I thought it wise to write to this column to sound a word of caution or to advise young ladies who married or up-and-coming ladies are contemplating to marry.

We got married and with time had to arrange for a house help because there was the need for an additional hand to assist in taking care of the children.

In no time, our zealous house help attracted the attention and love of everyone in the house and this has given me the assurance that she will possibly spend many years with us.

Having spent two years in the family, one morning, l discovered in her signs of pregnancy. From that time till evening, I took time to observe her critically and eventually confirmed that she was really pregnant.

Afraid of the implications involved with pregnancy and the reactions of her parents, l enquired from her who was responsible for the pregnancy.

I was shocked to the marrow when she mentioned my husband’s name as the one responsible for her pregnancy.

I hurried to the bedroom to verify from my husband what the house help had told me, but he denied that he had nothing to do with her pregnancy and that the lady must be joking.

Though l was enraged in general and the answer he had provided, the obvious question l asked him was “Why should this lady mention my husband’s name and no other man either in the house or in the vicinity?”

However, judging from my husband’s demeanour, l had the conviction that he impregnated our house help.

I took pains to provide our house help with the necessary assistance and the items she needed throughout her period of pregnancy until she was delivered of her baby.

It is quite surprising to note that his child resembles my two children.

Thereafter, l decided to take care of the child, compensated her and asked her to leave the house for good since her continued stay could probably result in another problem.

So this is my piece of advice to the young ones.   

Akos, Kumasi.

Dear Akos,

This column would like to praise you for the display of wisdom by which you were able to calm a seemingly volatile situation in your family.

Your marriage would have disintegrated and the children disorganised if you had left your matrimonial home.

More importantly, sharing this wonderful example for others to emulate gladdens my heart that people in dilemma will learn useful lessons from this. It takes women of substance and good character to overcome such problems in their marriages. The world will continue to sing the praises of your calibre.