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Husband impregnates house help
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Dear ObaaYaa,
I was a house-help close to 10 years with my madam and her husband. I was responsible for raising their three children from their infancy till they entered the Junior High School.
My madam and her husband were pleased with my services and, therefore, entrusted more responsibilities into my care.
Initially, my madam invited the younger sister to take care of her children whenever she made her foreign trips. I accorded the sister the same measure of respect and assistance on those occasions.
After some time, her younger sister also got married and, therefore, could not provide support to her sister.
As the foreign trips continued, the mantle finally fell on me to take charge of the house.
Though my master has been making advances at me, l managed to turn down his requests.
One day, when my madam was away and the children were asleep, my master asked me to serve him with a bottle of beer and also take the only bottle of coke in the fridge.
l felt dizzy ten minutes after drinking the coke and by the time l woke up,my master was beside me in my bed.
Having discovered this, lwas terrified and suddenly jumped out ofthe bed, but he managed to get hold of me and one can imagine the conclusion.
After this first encounter, he made it a routine to make love to me. He gave me a lot of money in a way to compensate meand warned me not to tell anybody about it.
l am pregnant and he is forcing me to abort the pregnancy because my madam will not take kindly to it when she discovers it.
What should l do?
Memouna , Accra.
Dear Memouna,
Since two wrongs do not make a right, I will advise you to keep the pregnancy because the harm hasalready been done so you must prepare your mind to give birth.
Your continued stay in the house will expose you so it will be better for you to leave the house as early as possible. In this case your master should support you with money to settle in a different house in order to protect his marriage.
Make sure the relationships ends here after you have been delivered of your child otherwise the embarrassment will be too much.
A CEO visited his office and saw a man who was scrolling through his phone while sitting on a sofa.
The CEO asked, “What are you doing?”
The man replied, “Wasting my time until I’ll get paid.”
The CEO was furious, “What is your weekly salary!?”
Man, “$1000”
The CEO counted $2000 and gave it to the man, “Take this money and get out! You don’t work here anymore!”
The man silently took the money and left.
CEO walked up to the reception, “By the way, who was this guy?”
The receptionist said, “Pizza delivery”.
I didn’t understand why my father abandoned me as a child until he appeared recently and told me my mom placed a curse on him.
I was about thirteen or fifteen, my mom took me to the front of a big house and told me that is where I belong.
I knocked the door and the man sacked me from the house to go back to my mother.
Life with my mother was very tough until God came through for me to gain a scholarship.
Years later, I’d returned from abroad when this man walked up to me apologising.
I take care of him and provide him with everything. He needs my attention but I doubt if he will get that from me because he didn’t take care of me.
Jojo, USA.
Dear Jojo,
This is such a heart breaking story. No child deserves to grow up wondering why a parent was absent or feeling abandoned.
If your father’s explanation is true, the responsibility for leaving you still rests with him. A curse, fear, or conflict with your mother may explain his decisions, but it does not excuse abandoning his child.
Parents have a duty to love, protect, and remain present in their children’s lives, regardless of the problems between them.
Now that he has returned, it is reasonable to listen to what he has to say, but you do not have to accept everything without question. Ask him honest questions about why he stayed away for so many years, why he never tried to reach you, and what he hopes to achieve by reconnecting now. His willingness to take responsibility for his choices is more important than the explanation he gives.
At the same time, try not to carry the burden of your parents’ conflict. Whatever happened between them was their issue, not yours. You were an innocent child who deserved the love and presence of both parents.
If you choose to rebuild a relationship with your father, let it happen gradually. Trust is earned through consistent actions, not just words. If you decide not to have a close relationship with him, that is also your right. Forgiveness, if you choose it, should be for your own peace of mind, not because you are obligated to overlook the pain you experienced.
Most importantly, remember that your worth was never determined by your father’s absence. His choices reflect his decisions, not your value as a person.
The past cannot be changed, but how you respond now can help you find healing and peace.
