Obaa Yaa
Husband impregnates house help
Dear ObaaYaa,
I was a house-help close to 10 years with my madam and her husband. I was responsible for raising their three children from their infancy till they entered the Junior High School.
My madam and her husband were pleased with my services and, therefore, entrusted more responsibilities into my care.
Initially, my madam invited the younger sister to take care of her children whenever she made her foreign trips. I accorded the sister the same measure of respect and assistance on those occasions.
After some time, her younger sister also got married and, therefore, could not provide support to her sister.
As the foreign trips continued, the mantle finally fell on me to take charge of the house.
Though my master has been making advances at me, l managed to turn down his requests.
One day, when my madam was away and the children were asleep, my master asked me to serve him with a bottle of beer and also take the only bottle of coke in the fridge.
l felt dizzy ten minutes after drinking the coke and by the time l woke up,my master was beside me in my bed.
Having discovered this, lwas terrified and suddenly jumped out ofthe bed, but he managed to get hold of me and one can imagine the conclusion.
After this first encounter, he made it a routine to make love to me. He gave me a lot of money in a way to compensate meand warned me not to tell anybody about it.
l am pregnant and he is forcing me to abort the pregnancy because my madam will not take kindly to it when she discovers it.
What should l do?
Memouna , Accra.
Dear Memouna,
Since two wrongs do not make a right, I will advise you to keep the pregnancy because the harm hasalready been done so you must prepare your mind to give birth.
Your continued stay in the house will expose you so it will be better for you to leave the house as early as possible. In this case your master should support you with money to settle in a different house in order to protect his marriage.
Make sure the relationships ends here after you have been delivered of your child otherwise the embarrassment will be too much.
Six months after marriage, I realised my wife had cheated twice. One happened months before marriage and the other happened just two months after marriage. We dated for four years before we got married.
She had saved the name on her phone as Chairman. The conversation between them didn’t happen every day but once they talked, everything was about sex. My wife encouraged every word and even made suggestions as to where to meet.
I want to meet ‘Chairman,’ is it a good or a bad idea?
Yoofi, Takoradi.
Dear Yoofi,
What you have discovered is deeply painful, especially after investing four years of dating and entering marriage with trust, love and commitment. Betrayal in marriage is not only about the physical act, but also the emotional damage, secrecy and broken trust that come with it.
At this point, it is important not to make decisions purely out of anger or revenge. You need clarity, honest and calm conversations. Your wife must first be willing to tell the whole truth and take responsibility for her actions without excuses.
However, before deciding whether to stay or leave, ask yourself some important questions. Is she willing to cut ties completely with this man? Is she ready to rebuild trust through openness and accountability? And most importantly, do you still see a future with her despite the hurt?
Healing from infidelity takes time, patience and sometimes professional counselling. Do not suffer in silence. Speak to a trusted counsellor, pastor or matured family person who can guide both of you wisely.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 28 years old guy who has been posted as a trained teacher in one of the rural areas in the Central Region.
I didn’t move in with my family because of the nature of my wife’s job.
About two months ago, I befriended one of the students who run errands for me. One thing led to the other and mistakenly had my way with her.
After two weeks, the girl came to tell me that she was pregnant and that I should give her money to terminate the pregnancy because if her parents get to know of it, they would cause my arrest.
This got me disturbed because I might lose [u1] my job.
Upon a second thought, I discussed this with a friend and she told me it might be a plan to extort money from me.
I personally texted her not to terminate the pregnancy but interestingly, I received a response that she has seen her monthly flow.
In fact, I became convinced about what my colleague told me. I want to end the relationship, what should I tell her and what should be my response when my wife hears of it.
Obaa Yaa, please I need an urgent advice.
David, Tema.
Dear David,
Your case is a very simple one. You are even lucky your friend who is much acquainted with the chicanery of the local girls fortunately hinted you and the girl has confirmed it all.
You better quit that relationship and avoid her because she thinks about following you home.
If you haven’t told her you are married, please tell her now.
