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Disqualified – Part 2
After leaving the Sampson’s house, Kakraba picked up his phone and called Paa John, his buddy since senior high school.
‘Hey Kaks’, ‘Charlie what’s up. So how did it go with Eunice’s dad?’
‘Just as we thought, my brother. He asked me to sit down and interrogated me about my parents, my job, and even asked about my financial position. Charley, this Sampson family is so arrogant’. ‘
So what did you tell him?’ ‘Nothing. Basically I mentioned my job with Development Partners, and my entry into the property business, but I told him that I had just started in what is certainly a high risk business which requires big capital, and that I hadn’t quite reached financial stability.
And he made it clear that being a former diplomat and due to his high social position, he would only entertain people of good financial standing around his children. In other words, I can come around the house as a friend, but certainly not as a potential suitor. He flatly disqualified me’. ‘Unbelievable. So will you continue to bring them all those goodies from the north?’
‘You know the goats, guinea fowls and foodstuffs I’ve been sending to you for distribution are very cheap up north, and I often visit the market centres where the big trucks are stationed, so it’s no big deal. Indeed, these days I don’t need to go to the market at all. I send MoMo to a guy at the market, and he buys them and pays a truck driver to deliver them to you, which you deliver to your mom, my home and Eunice’s home.
And as you know, the delivery to my home is intended for my sisters, for their restaurant. So let Mr Sampson and his folks enjoy my kindness for a little longer. Very soon I will vanish from their sights’. ‘What do you mean? Have you decided to leave Eunice?’
‘After the stories you have been telling me, do you want me to keep hanging on? I will stop by her place every now and then, maybe even take her and her two fellow terrorists to lunch or to jam, but I am easing myself out of her life. Her dad just gave me the perfect excuse’.
‘Actually, Kaks, Patricia and Amanda are quite harmless, if you ignore their pretenses about being among the most beautiful and best dressed ladies in Accra. All three are good looking, but they are certainly not among the prettiest. And their claim to be well dressed is absolutely crazy. But the dangerous person is Asantewa.
She’s the one pumping evil ideas into their minds. I wonder why three graduate girls sit down for a little witch like Asantewa to manipulate them. She has been in this business for some time, fixing rich and prominent people with girls and cashing in. We can call her a pimp’.
‘Paa John, many of her clients are not really rich or prominent, just greedy guys without self-confidence who pay for the connection with pretty, inexperienced girls. Eunice and her two friends are gullible, because I learnt that Asantewa is fixing them with a group of guys who talk a lot, but don’t even have decent businesses going’.
‘Let’s forget about these small mind girls and discuss something serious. How is business?’
‘Everything is fine up north. There are five sites in the Northern Region, after which I will tackle five each in Western North and Eastern Region. My work mainly involves supervising contractors, ensuring that they use the required materials and deliver to standard. I keep in regular touch with them, and help them to realize that mobilizing the right materials in good time saves them a lot of money.
This has gone down well. And I have an application which enables the funders to go online and see the actual progress of work. I try to be on site at crucial times, and they can always reach me when I’m down south. About the same thing is happening in Accra. We are working on ten buildings along two streets in Adabraka.
Lawyer Mills has been very helpful. The families know him very well, so they accepted the terms we offered. We offered them resettlement at Mensah Krom, and generous spending cash. They will get the final instalment when we complete the sale.
I have paid all the contractors, and made a big payment for the land after Nsawam. When I get full payment for the Adabraka project, I will concentrate on Nsawam, big time. I’ve reached agreement with the chief and his elders. I am building a decent school block and palace with community centre, then I will go on to the residential buildings. Two hundred houses’.
‘Kakraba, you are simply unbelievable. You just don’t give up. And Eunice doesn’t know who you are?’ ‘Not at all. Basically she sees me as regular guy with some extra change in his pocket, able to afford good entertainment. She wants a very rich guy who will spoil her, take her to Dubai and London every now and then. She doesn’t know that a good number of those guys are criminals’.
‘But she’s quite a well-mannered girl, and good looking. And she seems to like you a lot. So why don’t you have patience with her, and try to win her to your way of life?’
‘Paa John, you know I don’t really have the time. Eunice has two problems. She learnt snobbishness and arrogance from her parents, so it will not be easy. Moreover, together with her three friends they live in a world of their own. Very soon they will crash down to reality. So let me concentrate on my work. Hopefully I will soon meet a beautiful girl who will love me for who I naturally am.
Public awareness campaigns have successfully cast breast cancer into the global spotlight, typically framed through a uniform lens of pink ribbons, early detection drives and triumphant stories of survival. While these initiatives have driven vital mammography compliance and research funding, they often perpetuate a sanitised narrative. Beneath the polished public messaging lie complex, less-discussed clinical realities and emotional burdens that patients, families and healthcare providers must navigate long after the initial medical milestones have passed.
Moving towards an honest discourse
Acknowledging these untold truths does not diminish the incredible advancements achieved in modern oncology; rather, it humanises the patient experience. Expanding our cultural understanding beyond the simplistic “warrior” trope allows for deeper institutional support, better long-term medical management and genuine empathy for the lifelong journey of survivorship.
When people see breast cancer in movies or awareness campaigns, they usually see a neat story: someone gets diagnosed, goes through treatment, rings a celebration bell and goes right back to normal.
In real life, the journey is much more complicated. Let us break down five “hidden truths” about breast cancer using everyday examples.
Truth 1: The “Post-Treatment Cliff” (Life after treatment)
What it means: Everyone thinks that once medical treatments, such as surgery or chemotherapy, are over, the patient instantly returns to their old self. In reality, that is when a whole new set of challenges begins.
The example: Imagine finishing a gruelling uphill marathon. You cross the finish line, but your legs are still shaking, you are exhausted, and everyone else goes home while you are left trying to recover. Many survivors deal with long-term side effects, such as constant tiredness, numbness in their fingers or swelling, called lymphoedema, for years.
Truth 2: Catching it early is great, but not a magic shield
What it means: Early detection saves lives, but some types of cancer are so aggressive that even a small tumour can behave like a runaway train.
The example: Think of weeds in a garden. If you spot a weed early, you can usually pull it right out. But certain aggressive “weeds” spread seeds everywhere or grow roots so fast that even finding them early does not stop them from trying to pop up somewhere else later.
Truth 3: The long, hard marathon of daily pills
What it means: For many survivors whose cancer is hormone-receptor-positive, treatment does not stop when surgery ends. They may have to take hormone-blocking pills every day for five to ten years.
The example: These daily pills act like security guards keeping the enemy away, but they can also bring troublesome side effects, such as joint stiffness, sudden hot flashes or weakened bones. Because of this, taking the medication can feel like a daily chore that reminds patients of the cancer for a decade.
Truth 4: People we forget about (Men and young adults)
What it means: Public campaigns often focus on older women. Because of this, other groups affected by breast cancer may be caught off guard.
The example: Men can develop breast cancer, too, because they are born with a small amount of breast tissue. However, because some men think it is a “women’s disease”, they may ignore an unusual lump in their chest for months, resulting in a later diagnosis. Young adults under 40 face a different shock, having to worry about fertility, having children and career interruptions right in the middle of building their lives.
Truth 5: The hidden price tag (Financial stress)
What it means: A medical diagnosis brings a heavy second burden: financial strain.
The example: Even with good health insurance, additional costs can pile up quickly, including specialised scans, genetic testing, expensive prescription drugs and taking weeks or months off work to recover. It can feel like dealing with two crises at the same time: trying to heal the body while worrying about bills.
Talking about these harder truths does not mean we should not celebrate survivors. It simply means we need to understand the real, full picture of what people go through.
By Robert Ekow Grimmond-Thompson
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As soon as a married man becomes infected with the he-goat mentality, he is bound to forget that he has a wife.
It is often a tragedy because he can completely lose focus and generally start misbehaving. He considers his wife a headache, at best a pain in the neck.
The man has got a new girlfriend and is excited. And when he sees his wife, he wonders what she is doing in his home. Maybe she is only a stray dog in need of shelter. And Jesus Christ, won’t she just keep out of the way?
The married man who has gone into extramarital affairs is half the time engaged in mindless fantasy. He is engrossed in devising many ways to please his newfound lover. And if the girl is explosive in bed, the fantasy could spiral into the fourth dimension.
It could be that his wife is basically an “old layer” who can no longer take him to the heavens and back. The girlfriend, however, can take him on a trip into space, meandering through the galaxy of stars, down the Milky Way. It can be an experience of a lifetime.
Normally, after such a trip, the married man will forget that he even has a home and children. He becomes a fugitive.
What he needs is deliverance. So his wife will go to the pastor and tell him that her husband has developed very strange symptoms.
First, the man is behaving practically like a he-goat, sniffing desperately after young women. Secondly, he cannot find his way back home.
The pastor is likely to diagnose the ailment on the spot. He does not need to conduct a blood test to offer a prognosis. “It is the spirit of lust,” the man of God will say. “The Lord is in control.”
Sometimes prayers are effective, and the man heads back home. For very curious reasons, he remembers that he had lost his way. So he returns to his family, wondering what might have been happening to him. So long!
Other times, prayer worsens the case. It is not that the prayers are not being answered. God has only given the lecherous bloke a long rope on his own balls. It is as if the prayers drive him further and further away from the world of reason. For as long as three years, his soul is restless. It is in bondage!
The man forgets that the young girl he has been riding will one day marry and leave him in the cold. That day will surely come.
Now, when a married man is jilted by his girlfriend, he remembers that he has a wife. He had almost forgotten that he went and wedded a woman and called her his wife.
The jilted man will lick his wounds and trace his way back home. His wife would wonder whether he had lost his way. Anyhow, she will welcome him back home.
He becomes the loving husband he once was, and his wife is amazed. What might have happened to her man? Was he struck on the way to Damascus? Or on his way back?
When the man is sober, he will decide to calculate how much he has spent on that useless girl who said she was going to get married to some equally useless cockroach.
He realises that, in the short span of sexual enjoyment and extramarital bliss, he has lost all his lifetime savings, enough to build two-storey buildings.
Last Saturday, some youths who distinguished themselves in various endeavours were awarded at an excellence awards ceremony.
The males should always have it at the back of their minds that chasing women is what brings down both the weak and the strong, the poor and the rich, the lettered and the unlettered.
This article was first published on Saturday, August 26, 2006.
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