Obaa Yaa
I will marry her no matter what happens
Dear ObaaYaa,
We were good friends from the Junior High School and by share coincidence l discovered that both of us had registered for the same course in the polytechnic.
By studying and doing things together, we ended up becoming intimate friends and have planned to seal our friendship with marriage after school when we secure jobs.
We have passed through thick and thin and benefitted from each other in diverse ways. Our love keep growing from strength to strength and we cannot do without each other. All these while,things were moving smoothly between us and we have planned to marry at the end of this year.
Unfortunately, my mother is against our intention to marry and l don’t know what to do.
Despite the disapproval of my mother, l have decided to go ahead with the marriage no matter the opposition and the consequences. I need your advice on it.
Joseph,Tema.
Dear Joseph,
Love affairs must be handled with care and diplomacy while serious considerations are given to the factors which make marriage successful.
Since your letter was silent on your father, you ought to get the consent of your mother in order to contract this marriage. This will pave the way for the two families to settle on a suitable date to perform the marriage rites.
With all humility, you must once again approach your mother to accept your decision to marry the woman of your choice. If this attempt fails, then you must inform some of your relatives to persuade your mother to agree.
Your decision to marry this lady at all cost reveals the level of love between the two of you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
