Obaa Yaa
I will marry her no matter what happens
Dear ObaaYaa,
We were good friends from the Junior High School and by share coincidence l discovered that both of us had registered for the same course in the polytechnic.
By studying and doing things together, we ended up becoming intimate friends and have planned to seal our friendship with marriage after school when we secure jobs.
We have passed through thick and thin and benefitted from each other in diverse ways. Our love keep growing from strength to strength and we cannot do without each other. All these while,things were moving smoothly between us and we have planned to marry at the end of this year.
Unfortunately, my mother is against our intention to marry and l don’t know what to do.
Despite the disapproval of my mother, l have decided to go ahead with the marriage no matter the opposition and the consequences. I need your advice on it.
Joseph,Tema.
Dear Joseph,
Love affairs must be handled with care and diplomacy while serious considerations are given to the factors which make marriage successful.
Since your letter was silent on your father, you ought to get the consent of your mother in order to contract this marriage. This will pave the way for the two families to settle on a suitable date to perform the marriage rites.
With all humility, you must once again approach your mother to accept your decision to marry the woman of your choice. If this attempt fails, then you must inform some of your relatives to persuade your mother to agree.
Your decision to marry this lady at all cost reveals the level of love between the two of you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.
We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.
My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.
Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.
We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.
Lartey,
Sunyani
Dear Lartey,
I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.
What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?
Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.
I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.
Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.
I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.
I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.
Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.
We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.
Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.
She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.
Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?
Hello Christian,
What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.
Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.
The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.
Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.
Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.
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