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Should I sack my roommates girl friend

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young man sharing a rented apartment with three other guys. We rented the place together because we are all students and currently on vacation.

Recently, two of the guys travelled to their hometown, leaving only two of us in the apartment. The problem started when the other roommate brought a lady to the house. At first, I thought she was only visiting, but she has now been staying with us for several days and appears to be living here.

I have spoken to my roommate and asked him to ask the lady to leave because I am uncomfortable having someone who was not part of our original arrangement living in the apartment but he refused.

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His argument is that he contributed his share of the rent, so he has the right to decide who stays with him. He says that since his money helped us secure the apartment, I cannot tell him what to do with his portion of the house.

The situation is becoming uncomfortable, and I do not want this disagreement to destroy our friendship. I also do not want to appear controlling or disrespectful.

Please, Obaa Yaa, am I wrong to ask him to send the lady away?

Nana Yaw Frimpong, Accra

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Dear Nana Yaw Frimpong,

You are not wrong for feeling uncomfortable. The main issue is not that your roommate has a girlfriend; it is that a shared apartment is being used by an additional person without the agreement of the other people who live there.

Paying his share of the rent gives him rights as a tenant, but it does not automatically mean he can unilaterally turn a shared apartment into a place where his partner also lives.

Don’t make it a fight between you and the girlfriend. She is not the main problem. Your disagreement is with your roommate.

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Have a calm conversation with him. Tell him that you respect his relationship, but having someone stay for several days is different from having a visitor for an evening.

Speak to the other roommates. Since they are temporarily away, don’t make a permanent decision on their behalf; they should at least know what is happening.

Set a clear boundary rather than issuing an ultimatum. You can say that you are not comfortable with an additional person becoming a permanent occupant unless all the tenants agree.

If he continues to refuse any discussion, you may have to decide whether the friendship is worth enduring an arrangement that makes you uncomfortable or whether, when the tenancy ends, you should live separately.

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Must a young worker always keep quiet?

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I need your advice on something I have been experiencing at work. I am a young employee working in an organisation where most of the people in leadership positions are much older than me.

I respect their experience and authority, but sometimes I feel that being young means my opinions are automatically treated as less important.

There are situations where I have noticed problems with the way certain things are done. I have also had ideas that I believe could improve some of our processes. But whenever I try to raise them, I am sometimes told that I am too young to understand how things work.

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Recently, I made a suggestion during a meeting, and instead of discussing the idea, my supervisor asked me how long I have been working in the organisation.

I understand that experience matters. Leadership also requires wisdom and maturity. But does being young mean we should remain silent until we become older?

What worries me most is that many young employees around me have good ideas but are afraid to speak. They fear being labelled disrespectful, difficult or rebellious. Some simply keep quiet and do what they are told, even when they know something could be done better.

Obaa Yaa, where should the balance be between respecting leadership and speaking up? Should young employees simply follow instructions, or should leaders create an environment where young workers can question, contribute and even challenge ideas respectfully?

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Alfred, Amasaman.

Dear Alfred,

 A young worker should respect experience and authority, but leadership should also judge ideas on their merit rather than the age of the person presenting them.

Being young does not mean you have nothing valuable to contribute. At the same time, being experienced does not mean an older person is always right. The workplace needs both experience and fresh ideas.

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Your responsibility as a young employee is not to remain silent, but to learn how to speak in a way that demonstrates respect, professionalism and maturity.

When you identify a problem, avoid approaching your supervisor as though you have discovered a mistake they were too ignorant to notice. Instead, explain the issue respectfully and, where possible, present a practical solution.

That approach does not undermine authority. It demonstrates initiative.

And leaders should create room for young employees to contribute without making them feel that speaking up is an act of disrespect.

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Don’t keep quiet just because you are young. Learn, listen, respect authority and speak up when you have something meaningful to contribute.

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I hold a Master’s degree, but I can’t find a job

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I hold a Master’s degree from the Pentecost University, yet I am struggling to find a job.

For years, I believed pursing my Master’s degree could find me a better job but today, I have still not found one.

  I have been applying for jobs almost every week. I have sent my curriculum vitae to different companies, attended interviews and even applied for positions that are not directly related to what I studied.

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But the response is almost always the same, we need someone with experienceHow am I supposed to get experience when nobody is willing to give me the first opportunity?

The most interesting thing is that some of my classmates are already employed, while others are travelling or in booming businesses. I don’t want to give up, but the constant rejection is becoming frustrating.

Obaa Yaa, what should a young graduate do when qualifications are not enough and experience is required before anyone gives you a chance?

Elorm, Ho.

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Dear Elorm

If you already have a Master’s degree and still unemployed, the focus should not be positioning yourself for other opportunities.

Stop sending same CV, each tailored to a specific type of job. Your CV should highlight what you can do, not only the degrees you have.

Don’t wait for the perfect job. Take internships, short term contracts, research projects or volunteer positions that can give experience and contact while you continue searching.

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Most importantly, don’t interpret unemployment to mean that your Master’s degree is useless. The problem may be the way your qualification is being presented, regarding the type of jobs you are targeting.

Also, you can start up something small as a side business to enable you get enough income.

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