Obaa Yaa
Our reunion is lovely
Dear ObaaYaa,
Our lovely relationship which almost resulted in marriage ended abruptly because my lady became suspicious of my movements.
Though she visited me occasionally at home, it was quite embarrassing since all activities were given different interpretations and I became miserable and sometimes confused about the next step to take.
The situation degenerated since we had petty quarrels, frequent problems and there were occasions we would not talk to each other for weeks.
Unknown to us, our house owner, an elderly woman with five children who was very fond of me, later advised that we should separate for a couple of months and our problem would be solved.
Staying in the same compound house with her, she studied the two of us from a distance and used her rich experience to diagnose our problem.
I wrote to your column with this problem and you advised that we should keep our cool for time would heal our differences and things would be well.
We went apart as suggested and I was surprised that the period of separation rather brought out the best in the two of us to enrich our union which has now blossomed.
Kwame, Kasoa.
Dear Kwame,
Trials and temptations generally go to confirm one’s strength in life. The ability to emerge victorious after going through challenges keeps one stronger than ever and that is what you have been able to achieve.
Thank God that you have settled your differences amicably, no trace of suspicion and things are fine between the two of you.
Though the good counsel of the old woman has worked to perfection, the two of you must be commended for ensuring that peace has prevailed eventually.
Promote what will keep the relationship growing and guard against negative acts which are likely to mar your future marriage.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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