Obaa Yaa

Our reunion is lovely

Published

4 years ago

September 3, 2022

Dear ObaaYaa,
Our lovely relationship which almost resulted in marriage ended abruptly because my lady became suspicious of my movements.

Though she visited me occasionally at home, it was quite embarrassing since all activities were given different interpretations and I became miserable and sometimes confused about the next step to take.

The situation degenerated since we had petty quarrels, frequent problems and there were occasions we would not talk to each other for weeks.

Unknown to us, our house owner, an elderly woman with five children who was very fond of me, later advised that we should separate for a couple of months and our problem would be solved.

Staying in the same compound house with her, she studied the two of us from a distance and used her rich experience to diagnose our problem.

I wrote to your column with this problem and you advised that we should keep our cool for time would heal our differences and things would be well.

We went apart as suggested and I was surprised that the period of separation rather brought out the best in the two of us to enrich our union which has now blossomed.

Kwame, Kasoa.

Dear Kwame,

Trials and temptations generally go to confirm one’s strength in life. The ability to emerge victorious after going through challenges keeps one stronger than ever and that is what you have been able to achieve.

Thank God that you have settled your differences amicably, no trace of suspicion and things are fine between the two of you.

Though the good counsel of the old woman has worked to perfection, the two of you must be commended for ensuring that peace has prevailed eventually.
Promote what will keep the relationship growing and guard against negative acts which are likely to mar your future marriage.

Obaa Yaa

I don’t want to lose my girlfriend

Published

4 days ago

May 30, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.

However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.

Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.

According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.

Thomas, Wa.

Dear Thomas,

First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.

If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.

Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.

At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.

A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.

If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.

I wish you all the best.

Obaa Yaa

My Dad won’t attend my wedding

Published

2 weeks ago

May 23, 2026

WeeklySpectator

My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.

Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.

I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?

Kwesi,

Suhum

Dear Kwesi,

Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.

You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.

If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.

Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.

Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.