Obaa Yaa
He has disappeared
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with this gentleman who was very vibrant in his church and the community. He was the lead singer in the church and was able to win many souls for the church through his inspirational singing.
Though we promised to abstain from sex, l had the shock of my life when both of us could not resist the temptation to stay away from sex and l became pregnant.
Surprisingly, ever since l informed him that l was pregnant, he stopped calling my telephone and the greatest shock of my life is that this gentleman has left his house for an unknown destination.
Checks in his house have revealed that the man he had informed me as his elder brother is a mere benefactor and allowed my boyfriend to stay with him since he was stranded.
What shall l do with the pregnancy since my parents are not aware and l am embarrassed?
Ama, Accra.
Dear Ama,
The condition in which you find yourself will definitely make you to be disturbed. You have made a serious mistake in falling in love with somebody who cannot be trusted and whose background you do not know.
The only option left for you at the moment is to inform your parents that you are pregnant. It will be quite embarrassing to tell them that you cannot find your secret lover who had made you pregnant.
Though difficult, your parents will help you with a solution to the problem you find yourself in currently.
Obaa Yaa
I am sexually attracted to children
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man residing in Tamale. I am 40 years old and I have got my own business which is going on successfully.
The nature of my job had made me richer and am able to afford anything that I want.
My only problem is that I need a partner but I don’t fall in love with matured women. I am attracted to children.
I have had an encounter with so many women who are ‘marriage materials and type’ but none of them touch my heart.
In my previous relationship, the girl I dated was 15 years. She took me as a big brother but to me she was my lover.
Now that she is 22 and I can marry her, I have lost interest in her.
Obaa Yaa, what do you think is actually wrong with me? Is it normal? How can I have a partner if I continue to feel this way?
Dabo, Tamale.
Dear Dabo,
I don’t even know how to start this conversation. It is not everything that your heart desires that you should go for.
You need to understand that your desire for children sexually is criminal under the laws of this land so it should not be entertained.
I suggest you seek the assistance of psychologist to advise you or else you might end up in jail.
You might be suffering from pedophilia which is a condition of being sexually attracted to children. You need psychiatric help.
I suggest you also speak to your pastors to help you in prayers, in case it might be spiritual.
Obaa Yaa
The banker deceived me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with a banker who told me he wasn’t married and therefore, wanted to marry me.
We started going out and spending time together. He went to the extent of going to see my parents for the engagement list.
It was only after I got pregnant when he confessed he was already married and could not afford to marry me as a second wife.
The problem is that for the past five years, this man has refused to provide for the upkeep of the child.
He is not showing any commitments towards the child and making things difficult for me.
I am currently finding it difficult to take care of the child’s feeding and clothing.
My child is very brilliant at school and my fear is that I cannot give him the best of education since I am not working.
Prisca, Dodowa.
Dear Prisca,
Your story is a sad and unfortunate one. He just ‘toyed’ with you and was successful.
It’s about time women check about the men who propose to them.
And in the first place, why were you intimate with him, knowing very well that you were not married?
Report the matter to the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Ghana Police Service, formerly known as Women and Juvenile Unit (WAJU) immediately.
They would summon him and question him about the upkeep of his child and employ legal means to make him accept responsibility for the child.
