Obaa Yaa
He is not dependable
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Having met the first time at a party and talked extensively, we exchanged telephone numbers and the conversation continued from there.
Like an interesting music which is played repeatedly, the lovely chats continued until we reached a stage where we could not stay a day without hearing a word from each other.
I thought things would continue the way it started but unfortunately certain characteristics showed their ugly heads and suspicion took the better part of us.
Within the period that we had been close, l discovered that certain movements and pronouncements he had made were not consistent with some plans we had agreed on for execution.
Unfortunately, a friend informed me that she saw my boyfriend at a particular spot with a lady and that was not the first time.
Luckily, l had spoken about him to this friend of mine, but he was not aware.
Three months later, my female friend informed me that the lady my boyfriend had been visiting was three months pregnant and the girl’s parents were very angry.
Though l have planned to pull out of the relationship, he has denied any knowledge of this girl’s pregnancy when l enquired from him. Should l go ahead or pardon him for the sake of love.
Ohene Nana, Accra.
Dear Ohene Nana,
You have to thank God for the information which has come at the time you are not pregnant, a situation which could have prevented you from severing links with this gentleman.
This guy could ruin your future if you continue the relationship with him.
Though you love him, forget about him since he can use tricks to win your love back.
Concentrate on whatever you are doing until you are ready to marry.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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