Obaa Yaa
He is not dependable
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Having met the first time at a party and talked extensively, we exchanged telephone numbers and the conversation continued from there.
Like an interesting music which is played repeatedly, the lovely chats continued until we reached a stage where we could not stay a day without hearing a word from each other.
I thought things would continue the way it started but unfortunately certain characteristics showed their ugly heads and suspicion took the better part of us.
Within the period that we had been close, l discovered that certain movements and pronouncements he had made were not consistent with some plans we had agreed on for execution.
Unfortunately, a friend informed me that she saw my boyfriend at a particular spot with a lady and that was not the first time.
Luckily, l had spoken about him to this friend of mine, but he was not aware.
Three months later, my female friend informed me that the lady my boyfriend had been visiting was three months pregnant and the girl’s parents were very angry.
Though l have planned to pull out of the relationship, he has denied any knowledge of this girl’s pregnancy when l enquired from him. Should l go ahead or pardon him for the sake of love.
Ohene Nana, Accra.
Dear Ohene Nana,
You have to thank God for the information which has come at the time you are not pregnant, a situation which could have prevented you from severing links with this gentleman.
This guy could ruin your future if you continue the relationship with him.
Though you love him, forget about him since he can use tricks to win your love back.
Concentrate on whatever you are doing until you are ready to marry.
Obaa Yaa
Her attitude has changed
Dear Obaa Yaa,
There is something happening that could ruin the relationship with my girlfriend if it is not checked.
My girlfriend has a beautiful chocolate complexion which I am proud of.
In recent times, she has started bleaching in a manner I find annoying.
When I asked her why she is bleaching, she was unable to give me any tangible reason except to say that she wants the skin to be smooth.
I have, however, learnt from a friend of her’s that she admires another friend who has bleached her skin.
Because of that, I have warned her about the dangers and ramifications involved in bleaching but she has turned a blind eye.
One annoying thing is that after spending all her money on bleaching soaps and creams, she persistently worries me for money as if I am indebted to her.
I am beginning to think that she is bleaching to attract other men just as the friend is doing.
I am thinking of breaking up with her because she is not ready to listen to me.
Asare, Accra.
Dear Asare,
You don’t need to break up with her because she is bleaching. Try and coax this girl to give up this bad habit and if possible get her a pastor and parents to talk to her.
If this should fail, give her an ultimatum to give up this habit or risk losing the relationship.
Bleaching has side effects and can cause skin cancer.
You can also advise her to do the skin therapy with a good body cream.
Obaa Yaa
I’m ashamed of my stature
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 18 years and I have developed a stature I am ashamed of.Obaa, at first I was slim, smart and beautiful.
Within a few months, I have grown fat. When I walk around with my friends, they just make fun of me.
I realised the weight gain is affecting my health. I am finding it difficult to walk for long. That is making me sick all the time.
I am worried, please help me to get back to my normal stature.
Dora,
Konongo
Dear Dora,
You must first determine if your sudden excessive weight is as a result of eating too much or because of some drugs you are taking.
If it is because of some drugs, then see a doctor for an advice.
However, if it is because of excessive eating, then try to cut down the quantity of food you eat and then begin to exercise. Try and enroll in a keep –fit club or gymnasium.
Some people also put on weight when they are stressed, so try and have enough rest.
If you know a dietician, seek counselling so you don’t end up suffering for anorexia
