Obaa Yaa
My cheating girlfriend wants me back
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A girl I dated for over three years cheated on me with my friend and I ended the relationship.
My pain was not because she cheated on me, because I also cheated on her once and she forgave and stayed with me after pleading with her.
What I couldn’t stand was the fact that she slept with somebody I knew and someone I least expected to do this to his friend’s girl.
Now this girl is back; following me everywhere and seeking for forgiveness and come back to me.
I have assured her of my forgiveness and that I have nothing against her and my friend but she is not convinced.
She has put me in a tight corner with a request to take her back because she did same for me.
The difficulty is that the sight of her brings back those memories.
Quarmyne Seth, Odumase
Dear Seth,
I must say that I applaud you for forgiving your girlfriend and your friend especially when she forgave you when you cheated too.
I would, however, advise you against accepting her again because you would be tempted to cheat on her again.
In your situation now, trust in your relationship is no more. Just forgive her and move on. It doesn’t take a day to forget someone, especially when you both have memories together. It could take a longer time so it’s up to you to know what you actually want and go for it.
See what makes you busy and happy like going out with your friends, listening to music, going for parties, trips, just to get busy. It can help you recover.
Also, be very careful bout your friend too because he has betrayed your trust.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY girlfriend visited me a fortnight ago, and when it was time for her to leave, I ordered an Uber ride to take her home.
A distance that should have taken her about 30 minutes lasted for almost an hour and a half.
I detected this when I called the landline phone at home to check if she had arrived. Her sisters told me that she had gone to my place.
I got annoyed and went to the house to express my displeasure about it.
Just around the time, a guy pulled up at the house and called her by a nickname.
She was so confused that she did not know what to do. The guy left without uttering a word. Up till now, she has not explained what happened.
Greetings,
Is she playing a double game?
Robert, Kumasi.
Dear Robert,
I THINK you deserve an explanation, and the earlier you ask for one, the better. She must be hiding something from you, and there are two things that you can do.
First, you can confront her and demand an explanation. That might, however, lead to an impasse, because she might flare up and refuse to talk.
Secondly, you can just keep your cool and monitor her movements discreetly. If she is up to something, you’ll definitely find out.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
WHAT I’m going through currently isn’t what I anticipated when I agreed to marry my husband. I feel disrespected in my marriage and somehow manipulated.
From the beginning, he made things look easy. He made me feel like I was in a relationship with a man every woman could dream of. He was caring and simply wonderful, but along the line, I discovered that he was a gay.
When I confronted him, he told me it was something he used to do at the Senior High School but has turned a new leaf.
He made me believe that he had stopped, so I agreed to let go and let peace rein.
To my surprise, my husband brought these gays to our home, and when I confronted him, he told me he was finding it difficult to stop because he was addicted to it.
Obaa Yaa, I want to help my husband to stop this heinous act. How do I go about it?
Shika, Somanya.
Dear Shika,
I AM really sorry you are going through this. Finding out that your husband is a gay can be painful and overwhelming, especially in marriage.
Sexual orientation is not a habit or phase someone can switch off easily.
Have an honest and calm conversation with him; admonish him about the effect of sleeping with men.
Consider professional counselling and pray for him because some cases are spiritual.
