Obaa Yaa
I suspect she is cheating on me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
l am 27 years old and my wife is 24. We have been in friendship for six years and things went on well. I sponsored her to undergo a- four- year hair dressing apprenticeship after which l organised a grand party to mark the completion of her training.
When she started working, she was full of gratitude to me for facilitating her apprenticeship training throughout the period. She would close early from work and come to my residence to prepare meals for me.
However, l later discovered that her visits to me were not as frequent as they used to be. When l enquired, she told me that her customers increased daily and that she had a lot of work to do.
Though l was not convinced, l ignored her answer and concluded that l should give her time to change. But the way things are going it is a clear testimony that she has a lover who is taking too much of her time.
Having got the fact that she is having an affair with somebody, l am contemplating telling her to pay the money l have spent on her with interest, else she will be inflicted with a strange disease till she dies.
I think nobody will blame me if l go ahead with my plan.
Kwesi- Mankessim.
Dear Kwesi,
Take it easy and try to forget about the sacrifices and the assistance you have made to make her fully established in life.
You must remember that you have not as yet performed any rites to officially make her become your wife.
I am sure it was not easy raising funds to support her throughout her apprenticeship, yet l would appeal to you to consider all that you have done for her a charitable act which should not attract a reward in return.
I believe you are a Christian and God will not be happy if you cause her to fall sick to serve as punishment for cheating on you.
Obaa Yaa
I am sexually attracted to children
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man residing in Tamale. I am 40 years old and I have got my own business which is going on successfully.
The nature of my job had made me richer and am able to afford anything that I want.
My only problem is that I need a partner but I don’t fall in love with matured women. I am attracted to children.
I have had an encounter with so many women who are ‘marriage materials and type’ but none of them touch my heart.
In my previous relationship, the girl I dated was 15 years. She took me as a big brother but to me she was my lover.
Now that she is 22 and I can marry her, I have lost interest in her.
Obaa Yaa, what do you think is actually wrong with me? Is it normal? How can I have a partner if I continue to feel this way?
Dabo, Tamale.
Dear Dabo,
I don’t even know how to start this conversation. It is not everything that your heart desires that you should go for.
You need to understand that your desire for children sexually is criminal under the laws of this land so it should not be entertained.
I suggest you seek the assistance of psychologist to advise you or else you might end up in jail.
You might be suffering from pedophilia which is a condition of being sexually attracted to children. You need psychiatric help.
I suggest you also speak to your pastors to help you in prayers, in case it might be spiritual.
Obaa Yaa
The banker deceived me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with a banker who told me he wasn’t married and therefore, wanted to marry me.
We started going out and spending time together. He went to the extent of going to see my parents for the engagement list.
It was only after I got pregnant when he confessed he was already married and could not afford to marry me as a second wife.
The problem is that for the past five years, this man has refused to provide for the upkeep of the child.
He is not showing any commitments towards the child and making things difficult for me.
I am currently finding it difficult to take care of the child’s feeding and clothing.
My child is very brilliant at school and my fear is that I cannot give him the best of education since I am not working.
Prisca, Dodowa.
Dear Prisca,
Your story is a sad and unfortunate one. He just ‘toyed’ with you and was successful.
It’s about time women check about the men who propose to them.
And in the first place, why were you intimate with him, knowing very well that you were not married?
Report the matter to the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Ghana Police Service, formerly known as Women and Juvenile Unit (WAJU) immediately.
They would summon him and question him about the upkeep of his child and employ legal means to make him accept responsibility for the child.
