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He is my dependable life partner

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We started school from the kindergarten through to the Senior High School and held the greatest belief that we would end up as great academicians.

Even at this level, my friend was knowledgeable, experienced and very intelligent, a quality which enabled him to occupy the first position in class always.

With time, he decided to assist me to catch up in the subjects l was not good at and could hardly pass.

l regard him my mentor and he rightly deserves this accolade because  he is  principled, keeps  to policies and always on fire to ensure that things are done the right way.

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Unfortunately, during the process of teaching and helping me to understand some of the difficult topics, the unexpected happened when the two of us dropped our guard and l became pregnant.

Though he was initially disturbed when l disclosed to him that l had missed my period, he quickly picked up courage and consoled me that things would work out for good, despite the incident.

My parents did not hesitate to invite him when l disclosed to them the mess into which l had gotten myself.

I dropped out of school because of my situation and he was solidly behind me. The support l received from my parents and his, made me to go through this turbulent period without regrets.

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The two of us agreed that he should continue his education in the university while l nurse our child after which l will also continue.

Keeping to our plans and with the help of God, l joined him in the university after l had weaned my child, and my mother took care of my child.

He completed successfully with a first-class and did his Masters after which he secured a good job in a reputable organisation.

Our parents advised us not to allow misfortunes to take the better part of us but study hard to become successful in the future. With his good example and able direction, l was able to complete my tertiary education and l am now teaching.

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ObaaYaa, l would be glad if you could advise parents and the youth on the steps to take in the event of such cases.

Belinda, Accra.

Dear Belinda,

It is worthwhile and pleasing to note that you have turned a problem into success and this has given me the chance to offer words of encouragement to parents and the youth.

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All those who played various parts in your life have done exceptionally well and must be commended.

In their quest to study together, the youth should refrain from sitting in enclosed places and be on their guard and stay away from amorous acts.

Though your husband meant well, the two of you were taken by events and the ensuing pregnancy. However, the two of you boldly confronted the challenge and played your respective roles, backed by your parents to calm the storm.

Parents should not instantly throw in the towel and get enraged if things do not work out well for their children. They should work around the clock and come out with alternative results to guarantee a better future for their children.

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Irrespective of whatever happens, if the youth involved in the problem fail to take advice, then they should have themselves to blame.

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Obaa Yaa

I am Torn Between Two Guys

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

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Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon


Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

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Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

You might also reflect on:

  • Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
  • Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
  • Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
  • Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?

Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.

Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.

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My grades are dropping

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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.

It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.

The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.

This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.

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This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.

Chelsea, Accra.


Dear Chelsea,

Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.

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Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.

Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.

Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.

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