Obaa Yaa
Married man eager to marry me
I met this married man a couple of years ago and he has literally become my greatest provider and everything.
He has rented and furnished a new apartment for me, and provides for my needs.
Though he is married and has four children, he has promised to marry me in addition to his wife, provided l could keep our love affair secret.
His wife is the quarrelsome type who can team up with people to cause disturbance whenever she hears about the husband in an extramarital affairs.
Should l accept his proposal to marry me?
Mary, Cape Coast.
Dear Mary,
The saying goes that ‘all that glitters is not gold,’ therefore, you should not depend on the money and the nice things being lavished on you because this will not be forever.
Trouble will definitely come if this man’s wife gets to know that you have an illicit affair with her husband and the consequences will not be pleasant.
Additionally, you are likely to have problems with this man’s children who will surely side with their mother in all matters.
Since you have had enough from him, try to set aside his proposal and live an independent life to guarantee a future without troubles.
Greetings
Humu Nuhu. Tuesday, June 1, 2020, was your birthday. I wish to indicate that you are a gift to the world for which you deserve the best of everything. On this special occasion, l pray that you receive the joy of life and absolute peace of mind. Belated happy birthday, dear.
From: Rashid, your brother.
Akosua Boakyewaa Mensah. We are filled with joy for the opportunity to celebrate another birthday in good health. On this special occasion, we wish to thank God and pray for His continued blessings and protection.Belated happy birthday.
From: Mr Michael Wonder and Mrs Priscilla Ehun.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We bumped into each other on orientation day as freshers on campus. I liked his smile, his choice of words, and charisma. I didn’t hesitate at all when he asked for my contact. Who wouldn’t want to be friends with a guy like this, I said to myself.
We texted more often, had conversations on phone, and our friendship literally grew very strong. We attended lectures together, studied together, hanged out together; everyone thought we were lovers.
He did everything for me—surprise dates, thoughtful gifts, pays my academic fees, and gives me a listening ear everyone would wish for.
One evening at a friend’s birthday party, standing in the middle of the audience, he proposed and asked me to be his girlfriend. I declined his proposal; this was because I have no feelings for him, and I just want us to be friends.
He is a man with good morals, so gentle, God-fearing, ambitious, a man every lady would wish for, but my heart just wasn’t in it. I wondered if love was supposed to be this complicated: the more he did, the more I felt like a friend, not a lover. He still wants me, but I want us to be just friends. What should I do?
Naa Kwarley, Kaneshie.
Dear Naa Kwarley,
This is a tough situation, and you’re handling it with both kindness and firmness.
Since you’ve already told him you’re not interested in a romantic relationship, it’s crucial to be clear and direct while still being respectful. I’d advise you to reiterate your feelings to him, emphasising that you value him as a person and appreciate what he’s done, but you see him more as a close friend. Make it clear that you hope you can still maintain a strong friendship, but it can’t be anything more.
It’s essential to be prepared for him to need space or time to process, so be patient and understanding.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a regular reader of your highly esteemed paper and I would like to know whether some amount of money is paid to those who write short stories for publication on the children’s page of your Weekly Spectator.
I wrote a short story which was published last month, and my friends who saw it told me that a token will be paid to anyone whose story is published.
A.J., Kwabenya.
Dear A.J.,
We don’t pay for short stories published on our children’s page. That opportunity is to encourage school children to develop the habit of writing. We believe that by publishing their short stories, they’ll be encouraged to write more.
The paper is open to everyone who wants to share ideas or write about a concern.
