Obaa Yaa
Married man eager to marry me
I met this married man a couple of years ago and he has literally become my greatest provider and everything.
He has rented and furnished a new apartment for me, and provides for my needs.
Though he is married and has four children, he has promised to marry me in addition to his wife, provided l could keep our love affair secret.
His wife is the quarrelsome type who can team up with people to cause disturbance whenever she hears about the husband in an extramarital affairs.
Should l accept his proposal to marry me?
Mary, Cape Coast.
Dear Mary,
The saying goes that ‘all that glitters is not gold,’ therefore, you should not depend on the money and the nice things being lavished on you because this will not be forever.
Trouble will definitely come if this man’s wife gets to know that you have an illicit affair with her husband and the consequences will not be pleasant.
Additionally, you are likely to have problems with this man’s children who will surely side with their mother in all matters.
Since you have had enough from him, try to set aside his proposal and live an independent life to guarantee a future without troubles.
Greetings
Humu Nuhu. Tuesday, June 1, 2020, was your birthday. I wish to indicate that you are a gift to the world for which you deserve the best of everything. On this special occasion, l pray that you receive the joy of life and absolute peace of mind. Belated happy birthday, dear.
From: Rashid, your brother.
Akosua Boakyewaa Mensah. We are filled with joy for the opportunity to celebrate another birthday in good health. On this special occasion, we wish to thank God and pray for His continued blessings and protection.Belated happy birthday.
From: Mr Michael Wonder and Mrs Priscilla Ehun.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.
However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.
Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.
According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.
Thomas, Wa.
Dear Thomas,
First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.
If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.
Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.
At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.
A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.
If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.
I wish you all the best.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
