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He is back for his child after 8 years

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5 years ago

March 13, 2021

Our marriage was blessed with a lovely boy who has become the delight of many in the family.
Eight years into the marriage, my husband travelled to the USA. While there initially, he was communicating with us frequently but stopped at a point and all attempts to reach him were unsuccessful.
After five years, he called to inform me that he was married, therefore, l should accept proposal from any man who will express interest to marry me.
Eight years after, he has returned to Ghana to take my child away, who is my companion and my only source of joy.
This man does not respect me and my family. I will resist any attempt by him to carry out this paln.
What should l do?
Akua, Accra.

Dear Akua,
The close union which has developed between you and your child has reached a stage that separation will be difficult for you under the circumstance. This is where the problem lies.
Secondly, things would have been better if you had re-married and preoccupied with serving the interest of your new husband.
Though you are no longer together, the two of you can reach a workable settlement to your mutual benefit.
You should work towards shaping the holistic development of this child for a better tomorrow.
Try to involve your elders if it is becoming difficult to help find a workable resolution to the problem.
Greetings
Mr George Kudiabor. Our hearts are glad on the occasion of your birthday. Though belated, we still wish to indicate that we love you and cherish you for playing an invaluable part in the family. May God bless, protect and guide you towards the right path in life. Hold onto your maker and enjoy the beauty of life.
From: Your lovely wife, children and members of The Third Generation.
Madam Lydia Som Yeboah. March 6,was your birthday and we would like to celebrate you for the efforts made to train the youth to enable them to assume responsible positions in the society. We very much appreciate this and pray for God’s protection and guidance for you.
From: Alfred Nii Arday Ankrah
Mr Edward Ansong. March 8, was your birthday and we wish you the best in your endeavours. May you be a blessing to your generation and grow in the grace, peace and love of God. Belated happy birthday.From: New Royal International School Old Students

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I am Torn Between Two Guys

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6 days ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon

Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

You might also reflect on:

Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?

Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.

Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.

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My grades are dropping

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6 days ago

October 11, 2025

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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.

It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.

The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.

This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.

This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.

Chelsea, Accra.

Dear Chelsea,

Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.

Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.

Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.

Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.

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