Obaa Yaa
We are friends with benefits
Dear Obaa Yaa
I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years. I later met a male friend a year ago and we are engaging in ‘friends with benefits.’
I have grown to love this guy more than my boyfriend. I always think about him, dream about him, call him and text him more than l text my boyfriend.
I even got pregnant for him, pinned it on my boyfriend and told him I wanted to abort the pregnancy because I knew that when l give birth, the baby will not look like my boyfriend and he might one day discover my secret deeds.
He gave me GH¢ 2,500.00 to abort the pregnancy.
I have realised that my friend is only interested in having sex but not ready for marriage.
I am eager and looking forward to a permanent relationship which will end up in marriage but he said no.
I feel betrayed and fooled but I still have him as a friend.
Pls what should I do?
Jessica- Accra.
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Dear Jessica,
You cannot eat your cake and have it. Since you do not love your boyfriend, there is no need to pretend as if you love him.
Break up the relationship with one and stick to the one who loves you more subsequently marry you.
You will embarrass yourself if you become pregnant for your friend again and try to conceal it.
You should know that it is easy to get someone to make love with you for the fun of it but you can hardly get a man who will genuinely love you and perhaps ready to marry you.
Make a wise decision now because life is full of challenges, surprises and f smart people who are opportunists.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
