Obaa Yaa
I cannot date him
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am 28 years old and it has always been my dream to marry before 30 years.
I met this guy who loves me and I loved him too, but I think I cannot date him.
The guy is so caring, loving and he has all the qualities I need in my future husband.
Unfortunately, l had an affair with his work colleague a year ago. Though, that affair between me and the gentleman has ended, l feel like I cannot continue to date him.
I haven’t told him about the affair because I don’t know how to go about it and I’m scared of how he would react.
We have known each other for months and l feel like telling him but l can’t help myself because it will hurt him so much.
Though l love this gentleman, the fact that I can’t date him kills me slowly. My heart is in pains because I love him and I feel like l have betrayed him.
Please, should I go ahead and tell him?
Lucy, Accra.
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Dear Lucy,
There is no need crying over spilt milk. You willingly went in for that secret affair despite the fact that you claimed you loved him.
Your behaviour suggests you cannot stand the least pressure in your relationship and this could create serious problems for you.
If you really love him, under no circumstance should you have betrayed his trust. All the same, the harm has already been done but you must make conscious effort not to repeat that mistake.
This is the time for you to redouble your love for him. You need to make sure he plays a centre stage in your life.
What has happened should serve as a warning and a guide throughout your relationship.
Since you can guess his reaction if you should tell him, keep it to yourself and let this serve as a warning and guide for you throughout your relationship.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
