Obaa Yaa
My boyfriend wants to commit suicide
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am deeply in love with a young man for the past four years. Two years ago, he lost his job and he has become worried ever since.
My lover has written applications to many places in search of a new job but he has not received a reply to any of them as of now.
Although my business is booming, I cannot cater for our needs while the monthly bills keep piling up. This is taking a toll on him.
He is depressed because he talks about ending his life to enable me to get another man who will support me financially.
I don’t want to lose him because I love him.
Please what should I do?
Mary, Koforidua.
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Dear Mary,
I appreciate the love you have for your lover and the support given him since he lost his job. This is the time you must show him more love and try to condition his mind.
Since the man is the head of the family, he finds himself in an awkward situation where he rather depends on you for his daily sustenance. He will definitely not feel comfortable with the condition in which he finds himself.
Continue to do your best in supporting him and calm him down and tell him things will definitely change for the better one day.
Since your business is booming, why don’t you consider expanding it so that the two of you can handle it for more profit? This will affirm the saying that when one door closes another one opens.
Let him understand that it is God who has given him life and he is the only one who has the power to take it back at the appropriate time, so he should not consider suicide as the solution to his problem.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
