Relationship
Some questions you should refrain from asking a woman
There are a lot of topics that should be off-limits during casual conversations, but men seem to feel entitled all the time. They feel they can just ask these questions whenever they want because they’re men, and they can get away with it.
And if you’re that kind of guy, stop it. You aren’t entitled to anything. There are some things that you just don’t ask a woman because it’s just downright disrespectful to do so. You have no right to be so intrusive, especially when it comes to the intimate aspects of a woman’s lifestyle. You always have to treat women with respect and sensitivity if you want to be treated nicely in return.
At this point, you have to be mature enough to know that there are just some questions that you don’t get to ask – especially if you’re not close to a woman. It’s quite rude, and it shows lack of breeding. And you might just be ignorant, but she should not have to suffer for your ignorance. After all, in this new age of information, ignorance is no longer an excuse; it’s a choice. So stop being ignorant already. Be aware of the big “no-no” questions that you shouldn’t be asking a girl you’re not intimate with. Here are a few examples of those questions:
Unless you’re her family or you’re actively going to participate in the raising of her children, you have no right to be asking her about when she plans to have kids. You are placing unnecessary pressure on her to have children by doing so. She might be dealing with other aspects of life at that moment, and she might not want to be thinking about children yet. You don’t have the right to put those thoughts in her head.
- So… when are you going to get married?
Again, this shouldn’t be a question to ask unless you’re the one planning to marry her or if you’re going to pay for her wedding expenses. This shouldn’t be your business at all. If you have to ask this question (which you don’t), she isn’t the right person you should be asking.
You should be talking to whoever she is in a relationship with. He’s the one who has to propose to her after all. You shouldn’t be making her feel bad about the fact that she’s not married yet by asking her this question.
- You’ve lost/gained weight recently, what’s the matter?
Unless her weight gain or loss is becoming a health hazard for her, you have no right to be questioning her about it. In truth, you are just making her feel bad about her weight gain or loss. She isn’t going to like the fact that you’re making her feel like you’re judging her for how she looks.
How much money do you earn at your job?
Money is a big no-no question. You shouldn’t have to concern yourself with her paycheck if you only have a causal relationship. That’s sensitive information that you don’t have to know about.
- How old are you anyway?
A girl’s age is a sensitive topic, and you don’t have the right to be asking her about her age on a casual basis. It’s perfectly understandable to ask a girl of her age when she’s in an intimate relationship with someone or if she’s applying for a job.
But when it comes to being in a casual group setting and you put a girl on the spot by asking her about her age in front of a crowd, you are only coming off as an insensitive prick who is overstepping your bounds. Learn to be more sensitive and read the situation carefully before you say anything.
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Marriage is meant to be a safe place where two people build, grow, and support each other. But what happens when one partner’s need for admiration, control, and self-importance slowly erodes the emotional safety of the home?
As a marriage counsellor and mental health professional, I meet women who say, “I feel like I’m walking on eggshells at home,” or “No matter what I do, it’s never enough.” Often, what they are describing are patterns linked to living with a narcissistic husband.
Narcissism exists on a spectrum. Not every selfish or proud man is a clinical narcissist. But when these traits become consistent patterns that harm your mental health, self-worth, and sense of reality, it is time to pay attention.
Here are seven realistic signs you may be married to a narcissistic husband:
1. Everything is about him
Conversations, decisions, and even your achievements somehow circle back to him. If you share good news, he quickly shifts the focus to his own success or minimizes yours.
Over time, you feel invisible in your own marriage. A healthy marriage makes space for both partners’ voices. A narcissistic dynamic makes space for only one.
2. You feel constantly blamed and criticised
No matter how hard you try, you are made to feel inadequate. He may use subtle sarcasm, public criticism, or outright blame to keep you off balance. This is not constructive feedback—it is a tactic to control and diminish you. You begin to question your memory, judgment, and worth. In psychology, this is called “gaslighting,” and it is a common tool in narcissistic relationships.
3. Empathy is missing when you need it most
When you are sick, stressed, or grieving, a narcissistic husband often appears emotionally distant or irritated. He struggles to validate your feelings unless it benefits him. Real empathy requires stepping outside oneself. Narcissism keeps the focus inward, making emotional support feel transactional or absent.
4. Control disguised as “Love” or “Protection”
He may monitor your phone, dictate how you dress, or isolate you from friends and family under the guise of caring for you. Healthy love promotes freedom and trust. Narcissistic control seeks to keep you dependent and manageable. Over time, this erodes your independence and confidence.
5. Love feels conditional and performance-based
Affection, praise, and attention come when you meet his expectations. When you do not, you face silent treatment, anger, or withdrawal. This creates a cycle where you work harder to “earn” love that should be freely given. Marriage is not a performance stage—it’s a partnership.
6. He avoids accountability
When issues arise, he rarely apologizes sincerely or takes responsibility. Instead, he deflects, blames you, or rewrites the story to make himself the victim. A marriage cannot heal if one partner refuses to own their part. Accountability is the foundation of trust.
7. Your mental health is declining
Perhaps the clearest sign is what is happening inside you. Do you feel anxious, drained, confused, or less confident than when you got married? Living with chronic emotional invalidation and control takes a toll on your nervous system and self-esteem. Your mental health is a reliable indicator that something is wrong.
What can you do?
Recognizing these signs is not about labeling and leaving. It is about seeing clearly so you can make informed choices for your mental and emotional well-being.
1. Seek clarity through professional support: A trained counsellor can help you separate reality from manipulation and rebuild your self-worth.
2. Set healthy boundaries: Boundaries are not punishment. They are protection for your peace and dignity.
3. Build a support system: Isolate yourself less. Share with trusted friends, family, or support groups. You are not crazy, and you are not alone.
4. Prioritise your mental health: Therapy, journaling, prayer, and self-care are not selfish. They are necessary for survival and clarity.
Marriage should add to your life, not subtract from your sense of self. If you recognise these patterns, know this: naming the problem is the first step toward healing, whether that healing happens within the marriage or through creating a safer life for yourself.
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Counselor Prince Offei is a leading Mental Health Professional, Marriage Counsellor, Author, ADR Expert/Arbitrator, and Spectator Newspaper Columnist. He writes on relationships, marriage, parenting, special needs support, and their connection to mental health.
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