Obaa Yaa
She wants money for love
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I PROPOSED to a lady I have always admired during our university days. Interestingly, this woman was so much into me as well.
The only thing she always asks from a man is a gold chain, a new dress and sandals close to GH₵2,000.
According to her, if the man is able to get her all these items listed, then it is a win and yes for the man.
She demands these things because of the way a man treated her. Her argument is that if I should decide to end this relationship, she would have had something from me at least.
Obaa Yaa, is it worth venturing into?
Kelvin, Ofankor.
Dear Kelvin,
ANY love affair that is based on money or exchange of money for love or sex is an affair that begins on a wrong premise.
Such an affair is conditional and would encounter challenges sooner or later, because it is not grounded on mutual love and affection.
Besides, you are a student, how are you going to afford the gold chain? It looks as if this whole relationship would stress you. I will advise you to stay away from the lady.
Though you didn’t state your age in the letter, I plead with you to give yourself some time and relax. The beautiful one’s are not yet born.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am lady of 20 years in a relationship with a 23 year-old guy. .
We love each other and are in a serious relationship that will probably lead to marriage.
I am afraid my family may not allow us to tie the knot when we are ready because gone were the days, the boy was known to be a notorious.
Even though I have seen a complete change in his life, I am still afraid.
When I told him about my fears, he told me that the name Saul was changed to Paul and for that matter I don’t have to be afraid.
I don’t want to loose him, kindly advice me on what to do.
Esinam, Keta.
Dear Esinam,
No parent would want her daughter to get married to a notorious person. If your boy has once been notorious and he says he has turned a new leaf, just give him some time to prove himself if it was just by words or actions.
For the time being, why not introduce him to your parents as your friend. That way you could be able to gather impressions your parents have about him.
It would also give you a definite opportunity to know if they would accept him in future if he has indeed changed.
Meanwhile do not get too involved because you might later be disappointed.
Do not also forget that he might be pretending to have changed just to win your love.
Obaa Yaa,
Our rent is due and my husband wants us to move into a house I’ve built with my own money and I said no, saying that, “That’s not the plan I have for the building. We can’t move in.”
My plan has always been to rent it out. The income would give me some sort of stability. The moment I said that, he became furious. He started calling me selfish, disrespectful, and all kinds of names. Now he is threatening divorce because I refused to move into the house I built alone. Kindly read my story and tell me if I’m wrong to say no to him.
Baaba, Mankesim.
Dear Baaba,
You are not wrong for saying no, but this situation isn’t really about right or wrong. It’s about priorities, communication, and how both of you can handle pressure as couple.
Your situation makes sense. You are the owner of the house.
Your husband is reacting from stress. If your rent is due and housing becomes uncertain, he may see your house as immediate solution. That doesn’t justify the insults or threats.
Calling you names and threating divorce is not a healthy response. It shift the issue from problem-solving to emotional pressure.
