Obaa Yaa
Val’s Day exposed my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY boyfriend asked me to spend time with him because it was Valentine’s Day, which I did. We decided not to step out. I prepared some food which we enjoyed with some of his friends and younger brother who had also come to spend the weekend with him.
Later in the night, around 11pm he had a phone call which I received and woke him up. When he saw the person’s number, he immediately cut the line and switched off the phone.
Twenty minutes later, he switched it on and the call came again. Upon picking the call, I heard him tell the person that he was in Accra and not in Takoradi. This I found strange and questioned him when he came back to the room.
He later told me it was a friend whom he was owing some money. I later managed to secretly copy the number and called it the following day. I pretended I was his niece. Obaa Yaa, the lady told me that she was happy to talk to me even though we have not seen each other, and said she was the lover of my boyfriend, much to my surprise.
My man denied the claim of the girl and said he was going to beat her up, telling lies that she was not her lover. Should I forgive this guy or not because he ruined our Val’s Day?
Eyram, Ho.
Dear Eyram,
IF your boyfriend knows he is not up to any fishy game, then he must be at peace with himself. Obviously, he is getting worked up because of the sudden exposure of his double-game plan.
At any rate, there is no need to worry about him and the other girl. They can sort it out even if it is not true she is his lover. He is only putting up a bluff.
What you have to be sure about is if you still love him and think he can be faithful to you. If he cannot be faithful as evidence is showing, then better advice yourself. AIDS is still around, and unfaithful partners are good riddance.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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