Obaa Yaa
She came into my bathroom
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY wife is a trader. She travels frequently to a neighbouring country almost every two weeks for two days.
While she was away, her step-sister comes over to do some cooking for me.
I have noticed that her step-sister has been making advances at me.
Recently, she entered the bathroom while I was in there, and realised I was bathing. She stood looking at me until I threw some water at her.
I intend to tell my wife about her sister’s behaviour, but friends say this may cause tension between the sisters. I need your view.
Ben, Togo.
Dear Ben,
IT is true that such revelation to your wife will cause some tension between the two sisters.
You can also sit your sister-in-law down and give her a stern warning. Let her understand that you intend to report her to her sister if she makes that mistake again.
Then you will have to see how you can arrange with your wife for her to cook enough food to store while she is away for those two days. If necessary, you may have to buy a fridge or freezer for that purpose. In that case, there would be no need for your sister-in-law to come and stay over. You will also have to take good care of the children if there are any.
A marriage only works when those involved are prepared to make sacrifices.
However, if after this arrangement this woman should persist with her advances, then bring the matter out into the open and let your wife and her family know about it.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am lady of 20 years in a relationship with a 23 year-old guy. .
We love each other and are in a serious relationship that will probably lead to marriage.
I am afraid my family may not allow us to tie the knot when we are ready because gone were the days, the boy was known to be a notorious.
Even though I have seen a complete change in his life, I am still afraid.
When I told him about my fears, he told me that the name Saul was changed to Paul and for that matter I don’t have to be afraid.
I don’t want to loose him, kindly advice me on what to do.
Esinam, Keta.
Dear Esinam,
No parent would want her daughter to get married to a notorious person. If your boy has once been notorious and he says he has turned a new leaf, just give him some time to prove himself if it was just by words or actions.
For the time being, why not introduce him to your parents as your friend. That way you could be able to gather impressions your parents have about him.
It would also give you a definite opportunity to know if they would accept him in future if he has indeed changed.
Meanwhile do not get too involved because you might later be disappointed.
Do not also forget that he might be pretending to have changed just to win your love.
Obaa Yaa,
Our rent is due and my husband wants us to move into a house I’ve built with my own money and I said no, saying that, “That’s not the plan I have for the building. We can’t move in.”
My plan has always been to rent it out. The income would give me some sort of stability. The moment I said that, he became furious. He started calling me selfish, disrespectful, and all kinds of names. Now he is threatening divorce because I refused to move into the house I built alone. Kindly read my story and tell me if I’m wrong to say no to him.
Baaba, Mankesim.
Dear Baaba,
You are not wrong for saying no, but this situation isn’t really about right or wrong. It’s about priorities, communication, and how both of you can handle pressure as couple.
Your situation makes sense. You are the owner of the house.
Your husband is reacting from stress. If your rent is due and housing becomes uncertain, he may see your house as immediate solution. That doesn’t justify the insults or threats.
Calling you names and threating divorce is not a healthy response. It shift the issue from problem-solving to emotional pressure.
