Obaa Yaa
She is pregnant
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A few weeks ago, I reached out to Obaa Yaa, and she promptly addressed my concern, for which I am grateful.
Since then, I have entered into a relationship, but my extended period of singlehood led to a lack of control during intimate moments, resulting in the unintended pregnancy of my partner.
As a young man without employment, I am unsure how to provide for both the mother and the unborn child. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused; can you offer any guidance?
Kelvin Boakye,
Osu
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Dear Kelvin,
I AM grateful you took the advice I gave you concerning your issue a few weeks ago and I must say I am happy for your growth.
In your case, I must say, you should try hard and get a job. Having and taking care of children comes with a lot of responsibility of which finances come first.
You must be financially sound so that the child and your home will not lack anything. If you are good at handmade entrepreneurial skills, I would advise you to try your hands on them. Do not be idle.
Sitting idle does not solve a problem. Know that you have a big task in front of you therefore you should face it like a man. Get a job and start saving money towards unforeseen problems too. Wishing you all the best in life.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM a 32-year-old lady who got married two months ago. My husband had a female friend who was very supportive during our marriage.
I appreciate her care and support to my family but it seems she wants to try my patience. During our honeymoon, the lady kept calling my husband to check up on us and it was worse when we came back from honeymoon.
My husband’s attitude has changed drastically and sometimes I wonder if my husband knows I exist at all. I decided to have a talk with my husband about what was going on but he told me he doesn’t see anything wrong with that.
My marriage is just two months but I already have regrets. Obaa Yaa, please help me.
Nana Ama, Nungua.
Dear Ama,
MY dear, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It feels like you are hurt and betrayed by your husband’s behaviour and the woman’s interference in your marriage.
You deserve to be respected and prioritised in your marriage. It’s not ideal for your husband to be giving all his attention to someone else, especially a best friend who is a female.
Talk to your husband again, calmly and clearly, about how you’re feeling. If he still doesn’t listen or respect your views on the matter, then you have to reevaluate the marriage and prioritise your own happiness.
As for the woman, she’s not your problem. Focus on your own relationship and don’t let her actions dictate your emotions. You can’t control her behaviour, but you can control how you respond to it.
Dear Obaa Yaa
I GOT married to a lady from my hometown (name withheld) because tradition does not allow us to marry people from other places. We have been living in Europe for the past six years after marriage, but she is very demanding.
For all these years, anytime my wife gets pregnant, she’ll always tell me she wants to deliver in Ghana so that she can get some help in taking care of the baby. Meanwhile, giving birth in Europe would have been a great benefit to my wife.
However, my wife is currently in Ghana to give birth to our second child and wants to spend about six months. Luckily, her brother disclosed to me about the building projects my wife was handling. That’s how I found out she wants to deliver in Ghana to supervise them. Obaa Yaa, I am confused.
—Enoch, Hamburg
Dear Enoch
I DON’T really understand why your wife is playing smart. From the look of things, both of you are happily married and making memories. The question is, what stops her from telling you that she is building in Ghana and needs your support?
I will suggest that you demand to know from her the source of the money she is using for the projects. Open communication is key to resolving this matter and ensuring trust in your marriage.
