Obaa Yaa
My MoMo account is empty
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I always wish a happy new year to a couple of friends. This has become a tradition not because of the gains I get from them but rather these friends are very supportive and I always want to appreciate their gestures.
Interestingly, any time I call or send those wishes, they will ask whether my telephone number was still registered with Mobile Money (MoMo), which I always respond in the affirmative with smiles. Then after some few minutes, my message tones will beep with a MoMo alert.
I sent messages last year but the response was “Many Happy Returns.”
I am confused because up till now, they are yet to ask whether my contact is registered ‘MoMo-wise.’
I feel like asking why they have failed to perform that yearly ritual because something tells me all is not well with them. May be through that I will know whether they are facing financial challenges where I can be of help to them.
Should I proceed with my plan?
Max Quarmyne, Ablekuma
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Dear Quarmyne,
There could be various reasons for their inability to send you money this year. They could be facing some economic challenges or other unforeseen circumstances.
It is also possible that they have forgotten.
I would advise you to stop relying on your friends and having high expectations of them. Instead, place your trust in God. As the Bible says, “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”
Also, I would urge you to find something to do to support yourself financially in order to avoid feeling so disappointed in case they do not deliver as they did this year.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM a 32-year-old lady who got married two months ago. My husband had a female friend who was very supportive during our marriage.
I appreciate her care and support to my family but it seems she wants to try my patience. During our honeymoon, the lady kept calling my husband to check up on us and it was worse when we came back from honeymoon.
My husband’s attitude has changed drastically and sometimes I wonder if my husband knows I exist at all. I decided to have a talk with my husband about what was going on but he told me he doesn’t see anything wrong with that.
My marriage is just two months but I already have regrets. Obaa Yaa, please help me.
Nana Ama, Nungua.
Dear Ama,
MY dear, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It feels like you are hurt and betrayed by your husband’s behaviour and the woman’s interference in your marriage.
You deserve to be respected and prioritised in your marriage. It’s not ideal for your husband to be giving all his attention to someone else, especially a best friend who is a female.
Talk to your husband again, calmly and clearly, about how you’re feeling. If he still doesn’t listen or respect your views on the matter, then you have to reevaluate the marriage and prioritise your own happiness.
As for the woman, she’s not your problem. Focus on your own relationship and don’t let her actions dictate your emotions. You can’t control her behaviour, but you can control how you respond to it.
Dear Obaa Yaa
I GOT married to a lady from my hometown (name withheld) because tradition does not allow us to marry people from other places. We have been living in Europe for the past six years after marriage, but she is very demanding.
For all these years, anytime my wife gets pregnant, she’ll always tell me she wants to deliver in Ghana so that she can get some help in taking care of the baby. Meanwhile, giving birth in Europe would have been a great benefit to my wife.
However, my wife is currently in Ghana to give birth to our second child and wants to spend about six months. Luckily, her brother disclosed to me about the building projects my wife was handling. That’s how I found out she wants to deliver in Ghana to supervise them. Obaa Yaa, I am confused.
—Enoch, Hamburg
Dear Enoch
I DON’T really understand why your wife is playing smart. From the look of things, both of you are happily married and making memories. The question is, what stops her from telling you that she is building in Ghana and needs your support?
I will suggest that you demand to know from her the source of the money she is using for the projects. Open communication is key to resolving this matter and ensuring trust in your marriage.
