Obaa Yaa
My MoMo account is empty
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I always wish a happy new year to a couple of friends. This has become a tradition not because of the gains I get from them but rather these friends are very supportive and I always want to appreciate their gestures.
Interestingly, any time I call or send those wishes, they will ask whether my telephone number was still registered with Mobile Money (MoMo), which I always respond in the affirmative with smiles. Then after some few minutes, my message tones will beep with a MoMo alert.
I sent messages last year but the response was “Many Happy Returns.”
I am confused because up till now, they are yet to ask whether my contact is registered ‘MoMo-wise.’
I feel like asking why they have failed to perform that yearly ritual because something tells me all is not well with them. May be through that I will know whether they are facing financial challenges where I can be of help to them.
Should I proceed with my plan?
Max Quarmyne, Ablekuma
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Dear Quarmyne,
There could be various reasons for their inability to send you money this year. They could be facing some economic challenges or other unforeseen circumstances.
It is also possible that they have forgotten.
I would advise you to stop relying on your friends and having high expectations of them. Instead, place your trust in God. As the Bible says, “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”
Also, I would urge you to find something to do to support yourself financially in order to avoid feeling so disappointed in case they do not deliver as they did this year.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took off my wedding rings but could not find it again. I was washing when I took them off and placed them on a wall close to me. Honestly, after washing I forgot to pick them up until the evening, when my husband asked where my ring were, I quickly dashed out of the room to check where I had placed them, but they were not there. My husband made it clear that I was cheating that was why I could take my rings off and lose them.
I was packing to leave the house when the bags fell and I heard a tinkling sound of metals instead of plastic. I looked around the floor, and my rings were lying there.
Who took the rings and kept them there and why would the person do that to me just to shake the foundation of my marriage?
Oye, Tabora.
Dear Oye,
Your husband’s reaction was abusive, not just angry. Accusing you of cheating was just mean.
Rings don’t prove fidelity, trust does. Your response was fair: taking rings off to wash is normal, and cheating has nothing to do with it.
The fact that the rings ‘mysteriously’ ended up in your bags suggests someone moved them deliberately to cause conflict. A partner who jumps to punishment instead of problem-solving will do it again when the next misunderstanding happens.
If indeed your husband threatened and pushed you out, kindly talk to someone you trust in the family or a counsellor before moving back in. If you choose to stay, your husband needs to apologise and let peace to reign.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My life started falling apart the very day I got married. I started experiencing a series of unfortunate events, which nearly broke me.
In the first year into our marriage, I lost a very lucrative job when my wife was pregnant.
I was scheduled for an interview at the Korle-Bu Teaching Hospital.
Immediately I got down from a taxi, out of nowhere, a motorbike at full speed knocked me down. I broke my leg and was admitted to the hospital for three months.
I lost the opportunity for the breakthrough. Since then, things have become difficult for my family. Is my problem spiritual or what?
Mawuli, Keta.
Dear Mawuli,
Stop linking your hardships to your wedding. Job loss, accidents, and unemployment are painful situations but that doesn’t mean your marriage is cursed.
In life, there are misfortunes and I urge you to continue to pray hard and wait upon the lord.
Focus on what you can control right now: your health, your finances, and your mental health.
Focus on your leg, take any work to build momentum, and consider therapy to break the “everything is a spiritual attack” cycle. Talk honestly with your wife; you two are a team, not the problem.
