Obaa Yaa
She says she is high-class
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 25-year-old boy in one of the best universities in Ghana. I met a sweet, loving and kind girlfriend on campus who I love and cherish so much.
Unfortunately, she has started exhibiting a ‘high-class’ lady lifestyle on campus which has become a major concern to me.
She is always buying expensive clothes and accessories, and I have no idea about the source of the money.
I am also aware she can’t raise that money because she does not work and she’s not from a rich family either.
In fact, because of her background, I sometimes help her out with her school fees so I keep wondering where she gets that money to maintain her ‘high- class’ status.
I have confronted her about it severally and we always end up having a terrible argument.
I fear she is keeping ‘Sugar daddies’, though she keeps denying it each time I ask her about the source of the money.
She once claimed she earns the money from her holiday jobs.
Please help me solve this problem.
Gideon, Tamale.
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Dear Gideon,
Your girlfriend is an intriguing character. She may be telling the truth about getting the money from her holiday jobs.
Meanwhile, if you feel she is not telling you the whole truth and you suspect there may be more to it, you can talk to her calmly and educate her on the need to save some money.
You can let her know that the way she is spending the money is not the best and that, she was wasting the money on frivolous things.
As for having ‘Sugar daddies’, it is automatic that she might keep one if her friends on campus have some.
The best thing to do is for you to maintain a level head and do not let the situation affect your academic performance. If all efforts prove abortive, which is possible, break up with her, put your energy into your studies and focus on a brighter future.
A CEO visited his office and saw a man who was scrolling through his phone while sitting on a sofa.
The CEO asked, “What are you doing?”
The man replied, “Wasting my time until I’ll get paid.”
The CEO was furious, “What is your weekly salary!?”
Man, “$1000”
The CEO counted $2000 and gave it to the man, “Take this money and get out! You don’t work here anymore!”
The man silently took the money and left.
CEO walked up to the reception, “By the way, who was this guy?”
The receptionist said, “Pizza delivery”.
I didn’t understand why my father abandoned me as a child until he appeared recently and told me my mom placed a curse on him.
I was about thirteen or fifteen, my mom took me to the front of a big house and told me that is where I belong.
I knocked the door and the man sacked me from the house to go back to my mother.
Life with my mother was very tough until God came through for me to gain a scholarship.
Years later, I’d returned from abroad when this man walked up to me apologising.
I take care of him and provide him with everything. He needs my attention but I doubt if he will get that from me because he didn’t take care of me.
Jojo, USA.
Dear Jojo,
This is such a heart breaking story. No child deserves to grow up wondering why a parent was absent or feeling abandoned.
If your father’s explanation is true, the responsibility for leaving you still rests with him. A curse, fear, or conflict with your mother may explain his decisions, but it does not excuse abandoning his child.
Parents have a duty to love, protect, and remain present in their children’s lives, regardless of the problems between them.
Now that he has returned, it is reasonable to listen to what he has to say, but you do not have to accept everything without question. Ask him honest questions about why he stayed away for so many years, why he never tried to reach you, and what he hopes to achieve by reconnecting now. His willingness to take responsibility for his choices is more important than the explanation he gives.
At the same time, try not to carry the burden of your parents’ conflict. Whatever happened between them was their issue, not yours. You were an innocent child who deserved the love and presence of both parents.
If you choose to rebuild a relationship with your father, let it happen gradually. Trust is earned through consistent actions, not just words. If you decide not to have a close relationship with him, that is also your right. Forgiveness, if you choose it, should be for your own peace of mind, not because you are obligated to overlook the pain you experienced.
Most importantly, remember that your worth was never determined by your father’s absence. His choices reflect his decisions, not your value as a person.
The past cannot be changed, but how you respond now can help you find healing and peace.
