Obaa Yaa
She says she is high-class
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 25-year-old boy in one of the best universities in Ghana. I met a sweet, loving and kind girlfriend on campus who I love and cherish so much.
Unfortunately, she has started exhibiting a ‘high-class’ lady lifestyle on campus which has become a major concern to me.
She is always buying expensive clothes and accessories, and I have no idea about the source of the money.
I am also aware she can’t raise that money because she does not work and she’s not from a rich family either.
In fact, because of her background, I sometimes help her out with her school fees so I keep wondering where she gets that money to maintain her ‘high- class’ status.
I have confronted her about it severally and we always end up having a terrible argument.
I fear she is keeping ‘Sugar daddies’, though she keeps denying it each time I ask her about the source of the money.
She once claimed she earns the money from her holiday jobs.
Please help me solve this problem.
Gideon, Tamale.
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Dear Gideon,
Your girlfriend is an intriguing character. She may be telling the truth about getting the money from her holiday jobs.
Meanwhile, if you feel she is not telling you the whole truth and you suspect there may be more to it, you can talk to her calmly and educate her on the need to save some money.
You can let her know that the way she is spending the money is not the best and that, she was wasting the money on frivolous things.
As for having ‘Sugar daddies’, it is automatic that she might keep one if her friends on campus have some.
The best thing to do is for you to maintain a level head and do not let the situation affect your academic performance. If all efforts prove abortive, which is possible, break up with her, put your energy into your studies and focus on a brighter future.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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