Obaa Yaa
My friend’s girlfriend is enticing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been good friends from our childhood days, primary school through to the tertiary level and there has been no problem.
During one of our long vacations, my friend introduced me to his girlfriend and further explained to me that, they had planned to marry after they had secured permanent jobs.
I was happy about this union and secretly prayed that they should grow in love and be committed to each other. After some weeks, I discovered that this lady had developed a special affection for me and always praised me for the least thing I did.
Later she started making advances at me and tried on many occasions that I have an affair with her but promised that she would not tell my friend about it.
Despite her repeated insistence, I have not yielded to her demands and she has developed hatred for me and kept telling lies about me. What should I do now?
Thomas-Accra.
Dear Thomas,
You have shown by your character that you can come out victorious when subjected to a serious test.
Being loyal to your friend no matter the circumstances or conditions, means that you are a trusted, true and dedicated friend.
Since you have discovered the true character of the lady, you must keep it to yourself and be observant. You should not be the one responsible for their separation, else your friend will think you are envious of their relationship.
It will definitely get to a time when this girl’s true character will be exposed and your friend will make a decision whether to continue with her or not. This is the only way you can keep your long friendship intact.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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