Obaa Yaa
My boss wants me to wear short skirt
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY girlfriend visited me a fortnight ago, and when it was time for her to leave, I ordered an Uber ride to take her home.
A distance that should have taken her about 30 minutes lasted for almost an hour and a half.
I detected this when I called the landline phone at home to check if she had arrived. Her sisters told me that she had gone to my place.
I got annoyed and went to the house to express my displeasure about it.
Just around the time, a guy pulled up at the house and called her by a nickname.
She was so confused that she did not know what to do. The guy left without uttering a word. Up till now, she has not explained what happened.
Greetings,
Is she playing a double game?
Robert, Kumasi.
Dear Robert,
I THINK you deserve an explanation, and the earlier you ask for one, the better. She must be hiding something from you, and there are two things that you can do.
First, you can confront her and demand an explanation. That might, however, lead to an impasse, because she might flare up and refuse to talk.
Secondly, you can just keep your cool and monitor her movements discreetly. If she is up to something, you’ll definitely find out.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
WHAT I’m going through currently isn’t what I anticipated when I agreed to marry my husband. I feel disrespected in my marriage and somehow manipulated.
From the beginning, he made things look easy. He made me feel like I was in a relationship with a man every woman could dream of. He was caring and simply wonderful, but along the line, I discovered that he was a gay.
When I confronted him, he told me it was something he used to do at the Senior High School but has turned a new leaf.
He made me believe that he had stopped, so I agreed to let go and let peace rein.
To my surprise, my husband brought these gays to our home, and when I confronted him, he told me he was finding it difficult to stop because he was addicted to it.
Obaa Yaa, I want to help my husband to stop this heinous act. How do I go about it?
Shika, Somanya.
Dear Shika,
I AM really sorry you are going through this. Finding out that your husband is a gay can be painful and overwhelming, especially in marriage.
Sexual orientation is not a habit or phase someone can switch off easily.
Have an honest and calm conversation with him; admonish him about the effect of sleeping with men.
Consider professional counselling and pray for him because some cases are spiritual.
