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Love in the air: 5 ways to rekindle the spark this Christmas
AS the Christmas season approaches, the air is filled with love, joy, and togetherness. It is a time to reconnect with loved ones, and what better way to do so than by reigniting the spark in your relationship?
As a marriage and relationship expert, I have seen many couples struggle to keep the flame alive, including during the holiday season. But with a little effort and creativity, you can make this Christmas a special one for you and your spouse/partner. Here are five ways to rekindle the spark:
1. Create a romantic ambiance
As a married couple, the holiday season is the perfect time to set the mood for romance. Dim the lights, light some candles, and play your partner’s favourite love songs. Cook a special meal together, and enjoy it by the fireplace or under the stars.
Better still, imagine sipping hot cocoa by the beach at Labadi, watching the sunset over the ocean, and sharing a romantic kiss with your spouse under the stars. Or, picture yourself cozied up in a charming café in Osu, surrounded by the warm glow of candles and the soft hum of jazz music.
Create a romantic ambiance that speaks to your partner’s heart. You can even recreate your first date or plan a surprise getaway to a secluded spot in the countryside. Make it a night to remember, just like the ones you had when you first fell in love.
2. Give thoughtful gifts
Gift-giving is a big part of Christmas, but it is not just about the price tag. In Ghana, we love giving gifts that show we care. Instead of splurging on expensive presents, focus on thoughtful gestures that speak to your partner’s heart.
Maybe it is a handmade gift, a personalised item, or something that represents a special memory you have shared together.
For example, if your partner loves cooking, consider gifting them a cookbook from a local Ghanaian chef or a set of artisanal spices from the Makola Market.
It is about showing your partner that you care and pay attention to their needs and desires. Take the time to get something that says, “I love and appreciate you.”
3. Plan a getaway
The holiday season is a great time to take a break from the hustle of daily life and reconnect with your partner. Who says you need to leave the country to have a great getaway?
Plan a quick trip to a nearby city like Cape Coast, Aburi, or Akumadan, and experience the beauty of Ghana together.
If you are on a tight budget, consider a staycation at a cozy bed and breakfast in Tema or a romantic dinner cruise on the Volta River.
Sometimes, all it takes is a change of scenery to bring back the spark.
4. Show appreciation
The Christmas season is a time to express gratitude and appreciation for the people in our lives. Take the time to tell your spouse why you love and appreciate them. Write love notes, surprise them with small gifts, or simply say thank you for being an amazing partner.
5. Make new memories
Try something new and exciting together, whether it is a cooking class, a dance lesson, or a fun activity you have always wanted to try.
Go on a cultural tour of Accra and explore the National Museum or the Kwame Nkrumah Mausoleum. Or attend a concert together. The laughter and excitement will bring back the spark and create new memories to cherish.
This Christmas, make a conscious effort to reignite the spark in your marital relationship. With a little creativity and effort, you can make this holiday season one to remember.
Merry Christmas, and may your love continue to grow and shine bright!
To be continued …
By Counselor Prince Offei
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REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI is a renowned author, mental health professional, lecturer, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE).
He is the author of several books, including “Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage” and “A Counsellor’s Guide to Using ‘Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Effectively.”
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A good relationship with your boss is critical for job success and career development. Supervisors have a great influence on your stress level, your team and company culture, and ultimately, whether you succeed or fail in a role.
They are also your best resource for support, problem-solving, and personal development. Building a strong relationship with them can be transformative for your work experience and professional growth, but navigating this connection can be complex.
Here are the remainder of some key values and characteristics that will help you along the way.
Be an excellent communicator
Establishing clear communication with a manager is absolutely critical to learning to work together. Everyone has preferred methods, styles, and frequency of communication, and it will benefit you to learn your boss’s preferences. Some people want minimal, direct communication, while others prefer detailed and frequent updates about projects. By catering to your supervisor’s unique communication style, you demonstrate thoughtful awareness and respect.
Additionally, be sure to clearly communicate difficulties before they pile up. Avoid unwanted surprises by giving your boss a heads-up about mistakes and confusion. Challenges and errors are a natural part of working on any team, so don’t feel the need to hide from that reality. Good communication around negative experiences will go a long way toward building trust.
Ask for advice and feedback
Your boss is your best resource. Be sure to understand what issues are worth getting their input on, to avoid running to them with every pain point every day. Asking for their opinion shows you value their expertise and goes a long way to developing a cooperative approach to strategy, process, and decision-making.
Asking for feedback is equally valuable. Many people are intimidated to ask for feedback, but also frustrated by a lack of attention and acknowledgment. Requesting feedback shows initiative and an interest in improving your performance.
Lastly, consider asking for coaching or mentorship. Managers are in a prime position to support your career development and are often enthusiastic about contributing in this way.
Marriage is meant to be a sanctuary — a place where two people feel safe, seen, and supported. But what happens when the person who promised “forever” slowly becomes the source of your deepest emotional wounds?
As a marriage counsellor and mental health professional in Accra, I sit with men who whisper, “I feel invisible in my own home,” or “I’m constantly blamed for things I didn’t do.” Often, these men are not describing a “difficult wife.” They are describing years of living with narcissistic patterns — patterns that don’t bruise the skin, but shatter the soul.
Let me be clear: Narcissism exists on a spectrum. Confidence is healthy. Pride is human. But narcissistic personality traits become destructive when they are consistent, rigid, and designed to control, manipulate, or diminish the other partner. Research from the American Psychological Association shows that emotional abuse from narcissistic partners can cause anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and even trauma symptoms similar to PTSD.
This article is not about demonising women. It is about naming pain so healing can begin. If you see yourself in these 7 red flags, know this: You are not weak, you are not crazy, and you are not alone.
