Obaa Yaa
Is this nude picture for me?
Obaa Yaa,
We have been married for close to three years now and my husband has never sent me his nude picture before, not even when we were dating and stayed apart but now that we stay together he did.
He recently sent me his nude picture and am baffled by his actions. This act of his has got me thinking recently that my husband might be cheating on me.
I don’t know why my husband will start sending me nude pictures now that we stay together. It is possible he was sending it to someone and it mistakenly came to me instead.
I am beginning to lose the trust I have in my husband and his love for me.
Should I confront him about it or act like I don’t know what he has done and see how things turn out?
I need your advice please.
Celestina, Amasaman.
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Dear Celestina,
It is regrettable that this is happening to you. First of all, I would advise you to confront your husband on the nude picture he sent to you in a calm and low tone. It could be that he wasn’t sending it to anyone but it mistakenly came to you.
Your husband wouldn’t send you his nude pictures when he is living with you in the same room and share the same bed intentionally.
Don’t keep a problem to yourself and be assuming but rather inhabit the practice of confrontation and talk to him.
I hope this goes on well, all the best to you dear.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.
However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.
Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.
According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.
Thomas, Wa.
Dear Thomas,
First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.
If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.
Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.
At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.
A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.
If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.
I wish you all the best.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
