Obaa Yaa
My husband wants to take a second wife
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been living together for four years now. We have everything one needs to live a comfortable life.
The love we shared was envied by lots of people including our close friends.
My only problem with the marriage is that within the four years of our marriage I haven’t been able to give my husband a child.
Initially, my husband was okay with me not being able to give him any child since we got married.
However, the continuous pressure from my husband’s family has become unbearable hence my husband is forced to do what his family members are requesting him to do.
My husband is forced to take a second wife who will be able to bear him a child or children.
I have no option than to allow him get a second wife.
However, I am confused as to whether what I’m about to do is the right way to go about the situation.
Please tell me, what should I do?
Faustina Kaneshie.
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Dear Faustina,
I’m sorry about the situation you are going through and it’s my deepest regret that this is happening to you.
First of all, children are gifts from God and therefore not from man. Man is only the passage way for the gifts of God to be seen physically and that is children. Be more prayerful and trust God to see you through these difficult times.
Don’t allow your husband to bring or marry a second wife. Marrying a second wife will still not solve your problem. Tell him that you are not happy about the idea of him marrying another woman.
Remind him of the promise he made to you through the exchange of vows that he wasn’t going to leave you through difficult times. This issue is an example of one of the difficult times therefore both of you should be backing it up with prayers and you would sail through.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
