Obaa Yaa
I need forgiveness from my girl friend
I got into a blood covenant with a lady by name Sarah who I was in a relationship with. We sealed this covenant with a padlock and threw it into the sea about 12 years ago deep in the night. She was my first girlfriend and we even have a child together.
Along the line when things began going on well for me, I messed everything up. I could not fulfill any of the promises I made to her during our hard times. So I ended up breaking her heart by marrying another woman.
Life became very difficult for me after marrying the new woman. Finally, I met a man of God and he told me my girlfriend cursed me because I didn’t fulfill any of the promises I made to her.
I am now seeing the traits of the curse controlling my life for the past eight years. My life has been miserable from drinking, bedwetting and now being homeless. I have lost all my investments and everything in my life.
I embarked on finding my first love but a friend told me that my baby mama got married to another man and they both left the country long time ago.
How do I seek forgiveness from my son’s mother?
Samuel, Koforidua.
Dear Samuel,
It is pleasing to note that you are truthful in your presentation.
Making a blood covenant is a serious issue which links you with the devil and it will automatically torment you.
Since the effects of the covenant and the curse are still hanging on your neck, you need a strong man of God to exorcise these powers of darkness to set you free.
You must look for the relatives of your girlfriend to locate her so that you can seek her forgiveness.
The word of God cautions Christians that, “ When you make a vow to God, do not delay in paying it.” It went further to say that God does not take pleasure in fools.
This can be compared with the promise you made to this lady but failed in fulfilling it, thereby, making her angry.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
