Relationship
How to stop things from bothering you
Identify the situation.
The easiest way to solve a problem is to identify what the problem is. Break the problem down into an easily manageable sentence that will let you clearly define what you’re experiencing.
Identify what you’re feeling and why.
You can’t effectively defuse an emotion if you don’t understand what you’re feeling. Are you angry, sad, disappointed, and frustrated? What feelings are at the root of the thing that is bothering you? Understanding what you feel allows you to employ strategies that work for you to deal with those feelings
Look for the facts of the situation.
Emotions often cloud our ability to see the truth. It’s difficult to see our role in a situation when we are too angry or frustrated to examine the situation. The great thing about facts is that they don’t require you to have any feelings about them. They simply are or are not, which makes them an ideal anchor to keep yourself grounded when trying to sort through your problem.
Ask yourself, “What is my responsibility for the situation?”
It’s necessary to consider what role you might have played in whatever the situation was. Did you do anything to cause it? Did you throw fuel on the fire and make it worse? What responsibility is yours for what happened? This is a valuable step for defusing interpersonal conflicts because the actions of other people are often driven by what’s going on in their minds.
Feel what you need to feel and then let it go.
Things are going to bother you from time to time. There is no avoiding it. It is reasonable and healthy to experience negative emotions when bad or unexpected things happen in your life. Negative emotions are what spur us on to take better actions and improve our situation. If you don’t like the way a situation makes you feel, that is your brain telling you that you need to do something to change your circumstances.
Take action.
Negative emotions serve a valuable function in that they are telling you to take action. Your brain is telling you, “I don’t like this. Do something about it.” And though we cannot control the things that happen to us in our life, we can always control how we respond.
Be kind to yourself
Even the best-laid plans can be blown apart by completely unexpected circumstances. It’s always a possibility that we must accept as we try to preserve our peace and happiness in life. Don’t be surprised if it takes a while to make this style of thinking into a habit. It’s a challenging skill to develop.
The good news is that it gets easier the more you do it. The more you do it, the fewer things will bother you overall. You just have to keep applying yourself and working at it until it becomes natural for you.
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Aries
You are a warrior by nature, try to balance out your own needs to ensure you do not give all of yourself to another. Give yourself some love, too!
Taurus
Do not fret, the secrets being hidden are not bad and are beneficial to your future. In fact, you will be super happy when they are revealed. Then, you can make strategic moves forward.
Gemini
Your friendship circle is evolving, allowing you to meet new people who will become your best buds over time. Embrace the rare chance to connect and engage with others you meet now.
Cancer
Home is where your heart is this week. And the more reason for you to start making yourself feel cozier in your space now. Treat yourself to a few new items to decorate and spruce up your pad to get in the spring spirit. Add fresh.
Leo
Lean into your higher mind and vibe. This will give you the ultimate opportunity to achieve personal fulfillment and spiritual growth over the next few months. Doing so will encourage you to reach new personal heights.
Virgo
Standing up for yourself takes a lot of guts and confidence. Luckily for you, you are able to assert your view against others and defend yourself against those who aim to bring you down.
Libra
Making your mark on the world is challenging, but you are headed in the right direction. As long as you accept that you need to be a leader rather than an innovator in your endeavours, you can take on your goals with success.
Scorpio
You are being introspective and plotting your next moves on and off this week. Take this time and energy to strategise the upcoming sunny days, so you can use them to your advantage and achieve your desires.
Sagittarius
It is time to get creative! This means busting out your drawing board, paintbrushes and colour palette to make art. Whether it is for professional endeavours or for pleasure, you will be inspired to bring your passions to light
Capricorn
Work is becoming very chaotic at the moment and requires all of your time, but you have the chance to balance out your vibe and not focus on professional endeavours. Find your chill spot and lean into self-care.
Aquarius
You are feeling extra chatty and more able to engage with friends. Word of advice: think before you speak to avoid conflict with others.
Pisces
This week gives you the chance to restart, reboot and get motivated to take on new opportunities. The question is: Are you ready now?
Attention-Deficit or Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often mistaken for laziness or indiscipline. In consulting rooms across Accra and in reports from school teachers, the pattern repeats: children who are bright but forgetful, parents who feel helpless, teachers who see incompleteness.
Research is clear-Barkley (2015) and others describe ADHD as a difference in the brain’s regulation of alertness, impulse and working memory, not a lack of effort.
The family’s role begins with structure. Regular sleep, predictable meal and homework times, and a simple visual list (uniform → books → water → corridor) provide the external scaffolding these children need. Praise what is completed—“You opened the book and wrote the first sentence”-instead of rebuking what is missing.
Schools can help by seating the child front-row and centre, giving short written plus verbal instructions, allowing brief movement breaks, using quiet nonverbal cues and, where possible, grading effort and method as well as neatness. These adjustments reduce conflict and raise submission rates without lowering standards.
Couples and caregivers should share roles: one grounds, one pivots, and both protect rest. Shame-“bad parenting, bad child”-needs replacing with fact: different wiring, needs scaffolding.
Outcomes improve not by promises of perfection but by daily routines, clear limits and warmed connection. One homework slot kept, one instruction chunked, one calm repair after blurting-these small wins shift the family climate and let the child be seen beyond the label.
Resource
• CPAC (award-winning Mental Health and Counselling Facility): 0559850604 / 0551428486
Source: REV. COUNSELLOR PRINCE OFFEI’s insights on special needs support, relationships, and mental health in Ghana. He is a leading mental health professional, lecturer, ADR Expert/Arbitrator, renowned author, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELLOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE) – 0551428486 /0559850604.
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