Relationship
Simple ways men show love
Ways he shows he loves you without saying it and ways on how to get him to say I love you because when it comes to the level of openness and honesty, it’s scarce that the man is the one who is leading that front in the relationship. A lot of the time, the woman is the one who is doing more for the level of communication between two people. Men tend to be more physical than they are verbal with how they like to express themselves, especially in relationships typically.
He listens to you when you talk.
He pays attention to you. He always gives you a safe outlet to express yourself. He always makes it a point to hear you out and validate your opinions.
He texts you randomly to keep you updated.
He always tries to check up on you whenever the two of you aren’t together. He wants to make you feel like he’s still thinking about you even when you’re not physically present in each other’s lives. He always wants to make you feel included in his daily life.
He looks at you as if you’re the only girl in the world.
Whenever he looks at you, you always get the feeling like he’s looking at the only girl who exists in the world. He makes you feel with his eyes just how serious he is about being with you. He wants you to know that he has eyes for no one else but you.
He tries to spend as much time with you as possible.
He may have other things going on in his life, but he always makes it a point to spend lots of time with you. He wants you to know just how important you are to him. He understands that time is the single most valuable thing he could ever give you.
He allows himself to be vulnerable to you.
He understands that the bulk of being able to make a relationship work is trust. And he wants you to be able to trust him since he loves you so much. The only way he knows how to make you trust him is if he lets his true self out – and sometimes, that can mean putting himself in a position of vulnerability.
He makes an effort to get closer to you.
He is always making a genuine effort to get closer to you. He wants to be bridging whatever gaps exist between the two of you. He knows that the key to a successful relationship is intimacy. And that’s why he always wants to be connecting with you in whatever means possible.
He pays attention to the little things.
He pays attention to the little things in the relationship. Even the things that you might deem insignificant, he tries his best to take note of them. It’s his way of making sure that you don’t feel like he is taking you for granted.
He talks about the future with you.
He takes the time to discuss the future with you. He wants to show you that whatever the two of you have together isn’t something temporary. He wants to show you that he’s taking you seriously and that he sees you as more than just a fling.
He makes you feel like an absolute priority.
There are so many things going on in his life. There are plenty of items that require his attention. However, he always makes it a point to make sure that you feel like an absolute priority to him. He doesn’t want to make you feel small or insignificant.
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Parenting teens can be challenging. But it can also be a joy. The key is to know how to care for yourself, first and foremost. Before you have children, you might think that parenting will come naturally. And, to some degree, it does. But there are days (and sometimes months and years) when all parents could use some extra support.
Last week we looked at some four simple yet powerful approaches for parenting teens that build strong relationships for the long-run. Here are the remaining two:
4: Keep communication going
Because we are often busy and distracted, we do not always take the time to really focus on our kids when they’re trying to tell us something. Take advantage of the time you have together. Having dinner together as a family, using car time to talk, or chatting before bed are good ways to stay in daily touch with your teen. Prioritise quality time as well as quantity: Consider having breakfast out on the weekend as a special catch-up time to chat about the week. Or schedule monthly “family meetings” to discuss how things have been going and any conflicts that have arisen.
5. Be an empathetic listener
Listening with empathy and caring is one of the most important tips on parenting a teenager. Researchers have shown that people’s brain patterns synchronise when they listen closely to one another and watch each other’s expressions. As a result, the connection between them becomes stronger. Not feeling truly heard can lead to isolation and lack of self-esteem which are the root causes of anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. Therefore, take listening seriously. It’s not just a way of coping with teenagers; it has an enormous impact on their well-being.
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SHE did not find out he was cheating. She found out he was drowning.
It was two weeks after their beautiful wedding. The jollof was still in the fridge. A loan officer called her number—not his—and politely asked, “Madam, please tell your husband to pay his overdue loan. We have been calling him.”
That was how she discovered her new husband had entered their marriage with a hidden debt of over GH¢40,000. No cheating. No other woman. Just a financial secret.
And that is how many Ghanaian marriages begin to die. Not with a shout, but with a secret alert on a phone.
In my therapy/counselling office in Accra, week after week, I sit with couples whose marriages are not broken by infidelity, but by invoices. If you ask me what is quietly killing Ghanaian marriages today, I will tell you without blinking: it is not that love has died; it is that money honesty never lived.
We prepare for the wedding. We do not prepare for the wallet.
What is money honesty?
Let me define it simply. Money honesty is not that you both earn the same. It is that you both know the same. It is the ability to sit down and say without fear:
“This is how much I earn.”
“This is how much I owe.”
“This is how I was raised to see money.”
“This is what scares me about money.”
Financial transparency is not about control. It is about clarity. You cannot build trust on top of secrets.
Many couples tell me, “Counselor, we love each other, love will handle money.” I always answer, “Love is the car, but money honesty is the fuel. Love without honesty cannot move.”
Why do Ghanaian partners hide money?
From my clinical observation, it is not always wickedness. It is often woundedness.
1. The fear of losing power: Especially for men, money is seen as power. “If she knows how much I have, she will control me or disrespect me.” So he hides.
2. Family entanglement: “If my wife knows I give my mother GH¢1,500 every month, there will be trouble.” So he creates a second MoMo account. Many Ghanaian marriages have three accounts—his, hers, and the secret family one.
3. Past trauma: A woman who grew up in a home where her mother begged for chop money will never be honest about her savings. She is not greedy. She is scared. She is saving for her survival.
4. Debt shame: In Ghana today, with easy access to Qwikloan, Fido, and bank salary loans, many young men and women enter marriage already drowning in debt. They hide it because they feel, “If I tell him/her, they won’t marry me.”
So the hiding begins. And that is where the insurance lapses.
The 3 Devastating Prices You Pay For Financial Secrecy
Research from Kansas State University found that arguments about money are the number one predictor of divorce, more than arguments about children, in-laws, or sex. Why? Because money arguments are never about money. They are about trust, respect, and security.
Price 1: It destroys trust faster than infidelity.
When you discover your spouse has a secret child, you are hurt. When you discover your spouse has a secret debt that loan officers are now chasing YOU for, you feel betrayed and foolish. Clients tell me, “Counselor, I can forgive cheating, but I cannot forgive that he made me look like a fool at the bank.”
Price 2: It creates chronic anxiety in your home.
A home where money is a mystery is a home where no one sleeps well. The wife is always checking his phone not for other women, but for loan alerts. The husband is always anxious when his wife says, “Can we talk?” You cannot have intimacy where there is financial anxiety.
Price 3: It teaches your children to lie.
Children are watching. When daddy says, “Tell anyone who calls that I am not around because of money,” you are teaching your son that lying about money is normal. We are raising a generation of financially dishonest partners.
