Relationship
How to make your man feel special
Repair the broken item for him
Fix something for him, so the repair doesn’t require him to endure the hassle of doing it himself. It doesn’t need to be anything major such as getting the brakes on his car. The fix could be as easy as having that drill repaired or replacing the damaged battery of the watch.
As men are known to forget all the tasks they have to do at the final minute, he’ll be grateful to you for doing the work for him, because despite having to, he is aware that he’ll never complete everything he’s got to. In addition, he’ll be thinking of you each time he makes use of the things you’ve repaired for him and boast about the competent and trustworthy girlfriend you are to all his buddies.
Make him feel special by inviting him on a date
It’s typically him who surprises you with new date ideas, So why not try to surprise him? Both of you have been working all week, and when the weekend comes around and you can turn his invitation to dinner at an expensive hotel off and instead invite him to your home to eat dinner.
Do not inform him of your plans beforehand and let him be caught completely off guard by the efforts you put into planning an unforgettable evening with great food, candles, and his favourite music.
Buy him flowers
Another reason is why it has to be that he showers you with presents and flowers? You can break the tradition by taking flowers to him personally or any other type of plant that can ease some tension and bring it to his office. Men love flowers- they also have a sense of scent (no matter how they are).
Bring food to him in his home
Nothing says “I love you” more than as much as steaming Papa John’s pizza, or buying an ice bucket filled with his favourite flavour of Ben & Jerry’sV, because haven’t we all ever heard of it? The path to a man’s heart lies through the stomach.
Make sure to find something on his bucket list and do it for him
We all had bucket lists as children that we never got around to finishing, so find the one you have and then set your sights to achieve something. For instance, you could watch the sunset or lie in the night with him. He’ll not forget going the extra mile to achieve something you wanted to do badly.
Find the ingredients for his most-loved cocktail and have them waiting when he returns home
Sometimes just a drink will suffice to relax and let his mind drift off after a tiring working day. And his preferred drink can make the experience more enjoyable.
Take a day off
A day or two later, without reason whatsoever, you’ll take a sick call and encourage him to take a sick call also so that both of you can have a day watching films together, eating food at a restaurant, and spending time with each other.
Write him a note
Make notes to him and put them in his pocket or in his day planner so that he can locate them later and be reminded of the person who wrote them. As cheesy as it sounds, however, the right words could assist him in navigating difficult days.
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Navigating social media boundaries as a couple can be a tricky task. With the constant access to our loved ones’ lives that social media provides, it’s important to establish clear boundaries to ensure a healthy and trusting relationship. Here are some tips to help couples manage social media use.
1. Have an Open and Honest Conversation
The first step in setting boundaries on social media is to talk openly and honestly with your partner about how you both feel regarding social media usage. These conversations can be challenging but are essential for maintaining understanding and trust.
2. Be Specific
When discussing boundaries, be specific about the behaviour that bothers you and what you would like to change.
- Instead of saying, “You spend too much time on social media,” try:
“I feel neglected when you are on your phone for extended periods during our conversations. Can we set a limit on phone usage during quality time together?”
3. Be Considerate
Respect and understand your partner’s point of view. The goal is not to control each other, but to create a healthy balance that strengthens the relationship.
4. Agree on Social Media Etiquette
Social media etiquette involves setting clear guidelines for how you and your partner will interact online. This may include:
- Whether you will follow each other on social media.
- What kinds of photos or posts are acceptable.
- How to interact with friends, family, or others online.
Privacy is key in these discussions.
5. Respect Each Other’s Privacy
Respecting privacy is one of the most critical aspects of social media boundaries:
- Do not snoop on your partner’s social media accounts.
- Avoid sharing personal information about them.
- Don’t post pictures or updates they may be uncomfortable with.
6. Don’t Use Social Media as a Measure of Your Relationship
Social media often highlights only the “best moments” of relationships. Avoid comparing your relationship to others online.
- Focus on your unique relationship and its successes.
- Remember that every relationship faces its own challenges and joys.
Conclusion
Setting boundaries on social media is crucial for a healthy, happy relationship. Key factors include:
- Open and honest communication.
- Respect for each other’s privacy.
- Avoiding comparisons using social media as a benchmark.
By prioritising these practices, couples can strengthen trust, intimacy, and emotional connection while navigating the digital world together.
Source: Arkansas Relationship Counselling Centre
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In the realm of romantic relationships, vulnerability and openness are often misconstrued as signs of weakness. However, research in psychology and relationship counselling suggests that embracing vulnerability can be a powerful catalyst for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening bonds.
Vulnerability involves sharing our innermost thoughts, feelings, and desires with our partner, making us susceptible to potential hurt or rejection. Yet, it is precisely this openness that allows us to build trust, foster empathy, and create a sense of safety in our relationships.
When couples prioritise vulnerability, they often experience a profound shift in their relationship dynamics. For instance, a couple I counselled who were struggling to connect after a recent move found that sharing their fears and anxieties with each other helped them rebuild their emotional intimacy. By being open about their struggles, they were able to support each other and strengthen their bond.
Benefits of Vulnerability and Openness
- Deeper Understanding: By sharing our thoughts and feelings, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our partner.
- Increased Empathy: When we are open about our struggles, our partner is more likely to respond with compassion and support.
- Resilience: Vulnerability helps us develop coping mechanisms and learn to navigate challenges together.
- Authentic Connection: By being our authentic selves, we create a sense of mutual understanding and connection.
Cultivating Vulnerability
So, how can we cultivate vulnerability in our relationships? Here are some practical tips:
- Start Small: Begin by sharing your thoughts and feelings in low-stakes situations, like discussing a book or movie. Gradually share more personal aspects of yourself as you become comfortable.
- Practice Active Listening: When your partner shares their vulnerabilities, respond with empathy and understanding. This helps create a safe space for open communication.
- Be Present: Focus on the present moment and let go of distractions. This will help you stay engaged and responsive to your partner’s needs.
- Show Appreciation: Express gratitude for your partner’s vulnerability and celebrate their courage in sharing their thoughts and feelings.
In many successful relationships, couples have reported that regular “check-ins” or meaningful conversations help them stay connected and build a stronger bond. By prioritising vulnerability and openness, couples are better able to address life’s challenges together, fostering a deeper sense of connection and intimacy.
Vulnerability and openness are essential components of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. By embracing these qualities, we can build stronger, more resilient bonds with our partners.
As we navigate the complexities of relationships, let us remember that vulnerability is not a weakness, but a strength that can bring us closer to ourselves and our loved ones.
To be continued…
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” by Rev. Counselor Prince Offei
(Lecturer, Published Author, Mental Health Professional, and Marriage Counsellor)
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