Relationship

How to love a woman who has been through rough relationships

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4 years ago

March 12, 2022

Life is always going to bring with it a fair share of challenges. That’s mostly what life is all about. It’s still a series of ups and downs. You can’t always be having it good in this world. You are going to have to go through some rough parts just to balance out the good.
In a way, you’re going to have to go through ugly phases in life, so you gain a better appreciation for the more beautiful parts. But sometimes, life doesn’t always play fairly. And sometimes, some of us have to go through more rough parts than good ones. And when overdone, it can damage a person.
But we will not be without our scars. We will not be without our wounds and our brokenness. We will not be without our damaged selves. And it takes so much strength to be able to get back up and say, “I’m ready for more,” even when you can barely stand.
That’s why it might be a little more difficult for you to fall in love with a woman who has undergone significant challenges in her life. This is why it’s going to be challenging to accommodate her in your heart – she is going to have the natural impulse to resist.
Be patient
She is going to harden herself, and she’s going to make it so much harder for you to penetrate her armour. You are going to have to make sure that you are as patient and as understanding as possible if you want to love her. She is ‘damaged beyond repair’ – but maybe, you’re exactly what she might need to feel better again.
You have to keep in mind that this woman has been rechallenged by lifetime and time. She has been through her fair share of severe trials and tests. And so she’s probably going to test you just as much. She’s going to push you just as harder. She’s going to challenge your willingness to have her in your life.
Because of how much she’s been through, she might be a little emotionally unstable – and you’re going to have to deal with that. She’s going to make it so hard for you to love her, but you’re going to have to do it all the same. She has been hurt so many times before, and so she’s going to try to hurt you as a form of vengeance – even when it wasn’t your fault that she got hurt in the first place.
She is afraid of putting herself through more pain, and so she might not be so keen on letting you in right away. But you have to work hard at getting her to lower her defences for you.
To be continued…
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Relationship

Tips on Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

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2 weeks ago

February 21, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Building and maintaining healthy relationships is an important part of looking after our mental health. Here are six top tips to support you:

1. Get to know yourself
Take time to appreciate yourself and connect with your emotions. Being aware of your feelings allows you to express yourself clearly and effectively. Poor emotional regulation can negatively affect your mental wellbeing.

2. Put in the work
Healthy relationships are built, not found. They require commitment and a willingness to accommodate each other’s needs.

3. Set and respect boundaries
Boundaries communicate what you appreciate and what you don’t like in a relationship. For example, respecting your need for alone time helps prevent unrealistic expectations and reduces pressure on the relationship.

4. Talk and listen
Disagreements are normal. Focus on listening to understand, not just to respond. Be open about your emotions and vulnerabilities with people you trust.

5. Let go of control
You can only control your actions, not those of others. Accepting this reduces stress and saves time while fostering healthier interactions.

6. Reflect and learn
Healthy expression of feelings helps you respond appropriately to others. Often, anger stems from hurt; recognizing this allows for better communication and relationship building. Reflect on the relationships that work well in your life, identify their positive qualities, and apply these lessons elsewhere.

Relationship

Discipline, culture: The 2026 parenting playbook for Ghana’s future leaders

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2 weeks ago

February 21, 2026

WeeklySpectator

As parents on a mission, raise children who are not just successful, but cultured, morally upright, and ready to lead. The secret? Blend biblical principles and traditional values with practical parenting strategies that work in today’s world.

Ghana’s culture is built on respect, community, and integrity, and when combined with Christian values like love and forgiveness, it is a powerful combo for parenting. Teaching children about traditions, biblical truths, or the importance of greeting elders is not just about preserving culture—it is about building character.

5 Practical steps to raise disciplined, cultured kids

1. Set clear expectations
Explain rules and values clearly. For example, “We respect elders because God says ‘Honour your father and mother’” (Ephesians 6:2). Also, “We respect elders because they have lived longer and know more.” Align household rules with cultural values like obedience and responsibility.

2. Lead by example
Children mimic what they see. Show respect to elders, speak kindly, and demonstrate honesty in daily life. Proverb: “If you show a child how to behave, they’ll behave.” Moreover, Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way they should go …” You can also introduce them to traditional games like “Oware” or “Ampe,” which teach strategic thinking.

3. Teach emotional intelligence
Help children label emotions (“You’re feeling angry”). Encourage resolving conflicts peacefully—like using “sorry” to mend relationships. Ghanaian proverb: “A smooth sea doesn’t make a skilled sailor.”

4. Assign responsibilities
Give age-appropriate chores (e.g., fetching water, helping with cooking). It builds accountability and pride in contributing. Link chores to cultural values like communal living (“We all help in the community”) and biblical stewardship.

5. Embed culture and faith in daily life
Cook traditional foods like Banku, Jollof rice, or Fufu, tell folktales, or celebrate local festivals with prayer and gratitude. Discuss values like ubuntu (I am because we are) to teach teamwork and empathy; alongside God’s love for unity (John 13:34-35). Make culture fun and relatable.

Some other awesome ways to make Ghanaian culture relatable for children include:

Sharing popular Ghanaian artists like Joe Mettle, Uncle Ato, or Obaapa Christie, and teaching traditional dances like Kpanlogo or Adowa.
Exploring Ghanaian crafts like kente weaving or bead-making through online workshops.
Talking about festivals like Homowo (celebrated by the Ga people) or Aboakyer (a deer-hunting festival) using cool videos and pictures online.

Why this matters for Ghana’s future leaders

Respect and integrity: Cultured children grow into leaders who respect others and uphold ethical standards.
Community mindset: Values like cooperation and serving others (Galatians 5:13) prepare them to contribute positively to society.
Resilience: Cultural roots give children a strong identity, helping them navigate life’s challenges.

Parenting in the digital age

Balance screen time with cultural activities. Use Anansi stories or Bible stories on YouTube or play Oware to teach strategy and patience.
Discuss social media etiquette through the lens of respect, responsibility, and biblical wisdom (Proverbs 15:4).

Final thought for Ghanaian parents
February 2026 is a fresh start. Blend Ghana’s timeless values with modern tools to raise leaders who are grounded, respectful, and ready to thrive.

To be continued …

Source: REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI and Counselor Blessing Offei’s insights on relationships, marriage, and parenting in Ghana. He is an author, mental health professional, lecturer, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE). He is the author of several books, including “Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage” and “A Counsellor’s Guide to Using ‘Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Effectively.”