Obaa Yaa
He promised to pay my school fees
Dear ObaaYaa,
I dropped out of school when my father lost his job and things became very tough for the family to get the daily three square meals.
A friend of mine took the opportunity and introduced me to a man who became my “Sugar Daddy”. Although that man had promised to help me pursue my education, which i treasured so much, l did not feel comfortable because he is married with children.
I have made enquiries to discover that this man who has promised to assist me to realise my educational dreams, does not cater for his own children and have incurred the displeasure of his family and other people.
I further learnt that the family responsibility rested solely on his wife who has to do several jobs to pay the school fees of the children.
I feel guilty and would like to back out of the relationship.
Would i be seen to offend him in any way?
Celestine, Accra.
Dear Celestine,
Count yourself blessed because you have been saved from an eminent problem which could have ruined your life.
Though you needed help to further your education and get a little relief from economic problems, you could have landed in a more serious problem which could have compounded your existing problem.
Your decision to conduct background checks on this man has really saved the situation. He could have impregnated you and messed up your life in the process.
That is why the word of God frowns on pre- marital sex at the beginning of a relationship.
Endeavour to engage in petty trading as a means of livelihood and if possible you can save a little towards your education.
Those who can genuinely give to support others are very few while majority operate as wolfs in sheep clothing.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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