Obaa Yaa
I still love my ex-boyfriend
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am married to a businessman who travels the length and breadth of the country, meeting business partners and always making efforts to increase his stock of goods.
His insatiable desire to become one of the richest businessmen in the country has led him to make more enemies.
He has made money his best friend and excluded everything and has even refused to take interest in me, his wife.
Though l have made my concern known to him, l am not happy because he seems not to be bothered about it and is still going about his business.
How I wished he was around me always, especially when l need him more to fill the vacuum in my life but it is not so.
Unfortunately, a friend proposed a gentleman to me who would keep me company and this has ended in a deep love between us and i find it difficult to stop this.
What should l l do to stop this relationship?
Aku, Kumasi
Dear MaameAkua,
Though the Bible enjoins one to work hard in order to earn a living, one is supposed to do that in moderation by taking into consideration other factors.
Your man cannot give any excuse for the total neglect of his family and solely depend on his business to the detriment of your marriage. He should remember that he has no authority over his body likewise you.
You should once again attempt talking to your husband and let him understand the harm that he is causing to you.
There is the possibility that he has a secret lover or lovers who might have been comforting his bed on his numerous travels and he does not see the essence of satisfying you at home.
Alternatively, it could be that your husband is deeply engrossed in his business and has, therefore, relegated other interests to the background.
As a wife, you should stop the relationship with your new-found lover who has taken over the place of your husband.
Though your husband is not playing his marital role well, this should not give you the privilege to take another man so long as you remain married to him.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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