Obaa Yaa
He keeps threatening me
Dear Obaa Yaa
My best friend’s boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and any time I try to end it, he threatens to tell my friend.
They have been dating for five years and planning to get married next year but he does not want to let me go.
I have stopped sending messages or calling him in an attempt to end our relationship, but he never goes a day without doing so. He will either keep calling or come to my shop to look for me if I do not pick up.
And when I refuse to be intimate with him, then his threats start. He sometimes tells me that I will definitely be his second wife and that scares me to death.
I really want to tell my friend but I am afraid that might cost us our lovely friendship and even our business together.
Please what should I do?
Akua, Amasaman.
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Dear Akua,
First and foremost, you are responsible for the results of your actions. Why did you date him even though you knew he was your friend’s boyfriend?
This gentleman is a womaniser; someone who has no remorse and by his character he cannot work for a successful marriage.
Additionally, he will never be content with his wife. He is capable of breaking marriages and friendships.
Despite his continuous threats to expose your amorous relationship with him to your friend, you must take the bull by the horn and sever links with him, because he will tarnish your reputation and destroy your future.
You must take this bold decission in order to save your friendship with your friend and secure your business.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
