Obaa Yaa
He is chasing my girl
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been lovers for a little over one year and l have realised that a friend of mine is chasing my girl. However, when l asked her about it, she denied it and said my information was inaccurate. I love her and cannot leave her.
Though l am troubled in my heart, l have not yet asked the boy any question. What step should l take?
Kofi Oppong, Accra
Dear Kofi,
Issues pertaining to relationships are fraught with challenges which vary from one individual to the other. It, therefore, takes diplomacy, tactfulness, and clear-headedness to overcome certain challenges in life.
You are fortunate to discover within one year that there is someone chasing your girl friend.
Though, by instinct you must be disturbed, you should rather try to find out whether your girl friend has another lover apart from you.
Secondly, you must try to establish whether the two of them had been in a relationship more than one year, which should suggest that they are old lovers. Additionally, to avert serious confrontation, there is no need to ask the gentleman any question.
If it is true, then you must be considered the person interfering in their friendship not the gentleman as you think. The earlier you quit this relationship, the better it will be for you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I PROPOSED to a lady I have always admired during our university days. Interestingly, this woman was so much into me as well.
The only thing she always asks from a man is a gold chain, a new dress and sandals close to GH₵2,000.
According to her, if the man is able to get her all these items listed, then it is a win and yes for the man.
She demands these things because of the way a man treated her. Her argument is that if I should decide to end this relationship, she would have had something from me at least.
Obaa Yaa, is it worth venturing into?
Kelvin, Ofankor.
Dear Kelvin,
ANY love affair that is based on money or exchange of money for love or sex is an affair that begins on a wrong premise.
Such an affair is conditional and would encounter challenges sooner or later, because it is not grounded on mutual love and affection.
Besides, you are a student, how are you going to afford the gold chain? It looks as if this whole relationship would stress you. I will advise you to stay away from the lady.
Though you didn’t state your age in the letter, I plead with you to give yourself some time and relax. The beautiful one’s are not yet born.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY wife is a trader. She travels frequently to a neighbouring country almost every two weeks for two days.
While she was away, her step-sister comes over to do some cooking for me.
I have noticed that her step-sister has been making advances at me.
Recently, she entered the bathroom while I was in there, and realised I was bathing. She stood looking at me until I threw some water at her.
I intend to tell my wife about her sister’s behaviour, but friends say this may cause tension between the sisters. I need your view.
Ben, Togo.
Dear Ben,
IT is true that such revelation to your wife will cause some tension between the two sisters.
You can also sit your sister-in-law down and give her a stern warning. Let her understand that you intend to report her to her sister if she makes that mistake again.
Then you will have to see how you can arrange with your wife for her to cook enough food to store while she is away for those two days. If necessary, you may have to buy a fridge or freezer for that purpose. In that case, there would be no need for your sister-in-law to come and stay over. You will also have to take good care of the children if there are any.
A marriage only works when those involved are prepared to make sacrifices.
However, if after this arrangement this woman should persist with her advances, then bring the matter out into the open and let your wife and her family know about it.
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