Obaa Yaa
He is chasing my girl
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been lovers for a little over one year and l have realised that a friend of mine is chasing my girl. However, when l asked her about it, she denied it and said my information was inaccurate. I love her and cannot leave her.
Though l am troubled in my heart, l have not yet asked the boy any question. What step should l take?
Kofi Oppong, Accra
Dear Kofi,
Issues pertaining to relationships are fraught with challenges which vary from one individual to the other. It, therefore, takes diplomacy, tactfulness, and clear-headedness to overcome certain challenges in life.
You are fortunate to discover within one year that there is someone chasing your girl friend.
Though, by instinct you must be disturbed, you should rather try to find out whether your girl friend has another lover apart from you.
Secondly, you must try to establish whether the two of them had been in a relationship more than one year, which should suggest that they are old lovers. Additionally, to avert serious confrontation, there is no need to ask the gentleman any question.
If it is true, then you must be considered the person interfering in their friendship not the gentleman as you think. The earlier you quit this relationship, the better it will be for you.
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am 22 and she is 20. We have not grown to a marrying state. My problem is that anytime I see this lady, I feel nervous and try to use a different route.
Both of us are Christians and belong to one church. I have been together with many girls, but this strange thing has not happened to me before.
Meanwhile, I am a student, and it will take some time for me to complete my education and get a job before marriage, so I can take care of my children.
Should I be bold one day to tell her to wait for me till I complete my education and then get a job, or should I stop her from coming to visit me?
—PK, Suhum
Dear PK,
Sometimes, when people are in love, they get excited and nervous when their loved one approaches them. However, this feeling should not be permanent. This nervousness normally gives way to relaxation, comfort, and joy.
If this nervousness should persist, then it means there is a problem. If there is something about her character that makes you uncomfortable, then talk to her about it. If it’s something negative and she has the power to change, let her do so.
At the age of 20, I also think both of you are very young for marriage. Just take the relationship easy—no serious commitments and no sex.
Give priority to a good education and a good job. That is one of the pillars to a happy marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a regular reader of your column. I admire the extent to which you go to help get solutions to some of the problems readers present to you.
I have an interesting concern which I hope you can help address just as you do with relationship matters. This has to do with taxi drivers.
Obaa Yaa, all I want to know and understand is why taxi drivers always want to count their money during rides. I don’t know whether that is to show off to passengers what they have or not.
I believe they can sit comfortably in their cars and count their proceeds without any inconvenience or interference when they end their rides or reload their car. Interestingly, they sometimes do so about two or more times before reaching their respective destinations.
What makes it more fascinating is that I have asked over five taxi drivers why they always want to count their monies when driving. The answers I got amused me. After the laughter, they told me they came to meet the practice.
Obaa Yaa, can you please use your platform to get some answers for me or other passengers that may also have wondered about this practice?
—Sammy Tee, La Wireless
Dear Sammy Tee,
We appreciate your kind effort of reading and enjoying our stories. It’s quite funny and interesting to hear about this fascinating story involving some taxi drivers.
This practice has been ongoing since time immemorial, and I don’t believe it will change anytime soon. I have personally encountered such drama when I gave a taxi driver a huge amount for my change. He quickly brought out his sales and started shouting at me that he didn’t have smaller denominations.
In my opinion, taxi drivers count their monies to keep track of earnings and to give accurate change. Also, some taxi drivers usually deal with different denominations. Counting helps to separate notes and coins for easier transactions with the next group of passengers.
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