Obaa Yaa
He is chasing my girl
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been lovers for a little over one year and l have realised that a friend of mine is chasing my girl. However, when l asked her about it, she denied it and said my information was inaccurate. I love her and cannot leave her.
Though l am troubled in my heart, l have not yet asked the boy any question. What step should l take?
Kofi Oppong, Accra
Dear Kofi,
Issues pertaining to relationships are fraught with challenges which vary from one individual to the other. It, therefore, takes diplomacy, tactfulness, and clear-headedness to overcome certain challenges in life.
You are fortunate to discover within one year that there is someone chasing your girl friend.
Though, by instinct you must be disturbed, you should rather try to find out whether your girl friend has another lover apart from you.
Secondly, you must try to establish whether the two of them had been in a relationship more than one year, which should suggest that they are old lovers. Additionally, to avert serious confrontation, there is no need to ask the gentleman any question.
If it is true, then you must be considered the person interfering in their friendship not the gentleman as you think. The earlier you quit this relationship, the better it will be for you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
