Obaa Yaa
Former girlfriend is still showing interest in me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We attended the same church and were very close and this closeness led to an intimate relationship between us.
Relations, friends and acquaintances knew about our friendship and some of them even referred to us as husband and wife.
Unfortunately, two years on, things changed suddenly and attempts made to repair the broken relationship had fallen on rocks.
My lover has failed to respond to my calls and would not make attempts to call me either. Though some friends who were eager to see us together as a couple tried their best, they could not succeed.
Finally, my friend got married to an influential rich man who promised to do everything for her, but the man died two years after their marriage leaving a child between them.
Five years after the death of her husband she has been pleading that she had made a bad decision and that l should re- reconsider her since l was not married.
According to her, she wished she were my wife because of my character and humility.
Advise me on the step to take.
Kwame, Kumasi.
Dear Kwame,
Your former girlfriend has taken a wrong decision by stepping you aside for a wealthy person. It was unfortunate that she did not consider the love that had existed between you and went ahead to make you suffer disappointment.
Having abandoned you for another person suggests that she has made you a second-rated lover and cannot be trusted.
Would she have been giving you considerations if the ex-husband were alive with all the pleasure and splendour surrounding her?
From all indications, she is the type who is susceptible to sweet promises and pleasure.
You should not hesitate in telling her that you are no longer interested in her. On the contrary, you are at liberty to make your own decision in this matter.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
