Obaa Yaa
Difficult to choose between two ladies
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year-old young man, active in church and a member of many youth groups. Due to my dynamism in church and the community, many people like me and l have made a lot of friends.
I am in love with two beautiful girls and would like to settle on one of them to marry.
My problem is the two ladies have good character, well-mannered, courteous and hardworking.
I have held myself back from having an affair with either of them since the youth have been advised to refrain from pre-marital sex.
How do l select between the two ladies who are not aware that l am interested in them and closely monitoring their conduct and activities.
Francis, Accra.
Dear Francis,
Being a dynamic young man will automatically attract scores of beautiful ladies to be in your company at all times. This requires that you deal with them sincerely and eschew immoral acts.
I commend you for being humble and eager to learn.
Note that time is the best judge and this will definitely help you in making a good decision. With time one of the ladies will back out to enable you to assess the one who is left very well
Alternatively, you can pay unannounced visits to them and learn a lot to do your assessment.
Having done all these, do not forget to pray for God’s direction.
Obaa Yaa
Let’s protect the girl child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a mother whose children are all girls. I am having sleepless nights over cases of little girls being defiled lately.
I wished to give birth to boys because my parents gave birth to only girls.
I am getting worried with the way the girl child is taken advantage of by unscrupulous men and it appears these men are going unpunished.
What can I do to protect my children? We must begin to see actions geared at saving the girl child.
Araba,
Takoradi.
Dear Araba,
YOU must begin to have very frank talk with your little girls. Tell them about sex, and tell them it is wrong for little girls to engage in it.
Tell them that it is wrong for anyone, most especially strangers, to touch or fondle their private parts and should not hesitate to report such cases.
With the children who are too young to speak properly (below three years), make it a point to bath them yourself either in the morning or evening and observe their private parts to make sure are well.
Do not leave them in the company of boys or men for long periods without checking on them.
Obaa Yaa
My mum wants me to end my relationship
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 26 year old driver, and she is 24 and an apprentice seamstress. We have known each other for three years.
I was having launch when my girl entered with another man but she didn’t see me.
When I asked who the man was, she said he was from her hometown and was invited by him for a drink. I just slapped her and she left.
Obaa, I had seen this man with my girlfriend another night and when I questioned them, he tried to fight.
I slapped him and he went to the police station to report that someone had assaulted him and stolen his necklace, watch and an amount of money.
The matter got to my mother and I was asked to pay Gh¢8,000 for assault.
My mother says, I should break up with the girl but I love her and can’t do that. What should I do?
Efe, Mallam.
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Dear Isaac,
Your girlfriend needs to be talked to instead of slaps. Let her understand that you felt threatened by the man who is not a mutual friend to the two of you.
You must explain to her that even though this man is from her town, she should have introduced him to you and also make an effort not to be with him at places and times that arouse suspicion.
This would be the first part of saving your relationship. The second part is that you need to control your temper as violence would always land you in trouble.
Finally you need to reassure your mother that you would never act the way you did again.
