Health Essentials
Care for our elderly parents & preparing for our golden years
The past few years I have been thinking a lot about how to make the life of elderly parents fulfilling and with less stress on our lives. How we should also prepare adequately for our golden years while we provide guidance to our children and grandchildren. These thoughts have on several occasions shifted to perimenopause and menopause and the role of finance and wellness and all this cannot be taken for granted.
Age does creep up on us. One minute you are a teen, with neither fears nor cares and in a blink of an eye, you are a parent of teens who will remind you that being around for over half a century is old. Is fifty that old? I do not think so, but a lot depends on what we have been doing for most of the fifty years. It is never too late to make changes.
As we trudge through life, most of us never think about the challenges that our elderly parents may face, and we are just not prepared when reality stares us in the face. Every age bracket has its unique issues and between forty to sixty-five years we often have quite a lot on our plate; supporting our elderly parents, putting our own lives in order and guiding our young ones.
Necessary steps to enhance life of elderly
1. Never boss or try to “parent” your parents
a. Think about this; we unconsciously start “ordering” our parents. Telling them what to do without finding their preferences etc. Parenting our parents is one of the challenges many elderly parents endure silently. Stop It!
2. Ask for their opinion
a. Being old does not mean one no longer has opinions. Ask. Argue in love, discuss issues such as exercise, medication, hospital visits, food, friends, religion, politics. Everything. By all means seek their opinion.
3. Do not overtreat them medically
a. Not every change you see in an elderly person requires medical intervention. Be careful what you buy medicines for and stay away from unnecessary tests. Make sure you speak to a knowledgeable health professional.
4. Hospital stays should be as brief as possible
a. Plan hospital or clinic visits to make them as short and convenient as possible. If possible, get tests and consultations done on the same day. If it’s not an emergency, find out if the medical facility has special arrangements for the elderly and also check the time of days with the shortest wait time. Many elderly people do not like the stress of hospital environments and why should they?
b. When admitted for an illness, work together with the medical team to ensure they are home as soon as possible. Most of them do best in familiar surroundings and home is numero uno.
5. Have them stay at home for as long as possible
a. Sometimes children are in a hurry to send parents off to homes that care for the elderly. People often ask where they could get such support. I think we should all plan to keep parents at home for as long as humanly possible. Sometimes we do not have the option of having them at home, but we need to explore all our options
6. Help them to socialise
a. Organise time with friends etc. at home and out of home. This brings a breath of fresh air to everyone including our elderly parents. This makes them happier, healthier and they live longer.
b. …and the more time we spend with our elderly parents, the longer they live.
7. Ensure physical activity
a. No matter one’s age and medical condition, there is always a form of physical activity to engage in. It may be as simple as making fists or moving arms, but every movement goes a long way to make life better.
b. Sunlight is a must. Do whatever it takes to ensure at least one gets a few minutes of sunlight a day.
c. The presence or chance to see beautiful plants is a bonus worth going the extra mile for.
Steps to prepare for our own golden years
1. Start a wellness plan or continue if you already have one
a. It’s a must!! Learn to breathe, build muscle, move to ensure your heart is happy and even more important parts of your brain that protect you from dementia will grow.
2. Keep in touch with your classmates
a. They have known you for years and a phone call or occasional visit or gathering definitely ignites memories and it brings “warmth” beyond your wildest imagination
3. Surround yourself with younger people
a. They can support you in many ways and their visits brighten your day while your advice is priceless to them. It is a win-win situation.
4. Avoid loneliness at all costs
a. You are not an island. Even if you think you are better off on your own and with your thoughts, nature does not agree with that. Kindly make a few good friends.
5. Protect your brain/memory
a. Dementia is a matter of when and not if; exercise will enlarge the part of the brain that controls memory. Having a larger hippocampus means it takes longer for dementia to show up.
Age will definitely catch up with each of us if we hang around Earth long enough. It is a matter of when and not if so, we should take steps to make our golden years and those of our loved ones happy and fulfilling. I will choose SUCCESSFUL ageing over USUAL ageing any day.
AS ALWAYS LAUGH OFTEN, ENSURE HYGIENE, WALK AND PRAY EVERYDAY AND REMEMBER IT’S A PRICELESS GIFT TO KNOW YOUR NUMBERS (blood sugar, blood pressure, blood cholesterol, BMI)
Dr Kojo Cobba Essel
Health Essentials Ltd (HE&W Group)
(dressel@healthessentialsgh. com)
*Dr Essel is a Medical Doctor with a keen interest in Lifestyle Medicine, He holds an MBA and is an ISSA Specialist in Exercise Therapy, Fitness Nutrition and Corrective Exercise. He is the author of the award-winning book, ‘Unravelling The Essentials of Health & Wealth.’
Thought for the week (1) – “Ageing comes with psychosocial challenges such as neglect, abuse, sexual adjustment, emotional disorders, other mental health challenges, issues with living arrangement and several others. Let us all help to make life easier and more enjoyable for the elderly”-Kojo Cobba Essel
By Dr Kojo Cobba Essel
Health Essentials
Sleep may not always be the answer to your needed rest
Sleep is powerful and definitely one of the major legal performance enhancing drugs of all time but even sleep answereth not all questions related to adequate rest.
“Doctor, I am so tired. I still feel drained even after a 10-hour sleep.”
“I feel lonely, unappreciated and extremely tired. Help me doctor.”
These are two of the numerous examples that clients complain of on a daily basis. We are in “an energy crisis that has nothing to do with oil and gas” and unless we learn to take the necessary breaks and make minor adjustments to our way of life we are heading for a generation that has burnt-out high achievers. I am only drawing attention to a crisis that is often overlooked.
Deep, adequate sleep is an extremely powerful life-changing natural phenomenon that many people trample upon. If you had to make a single change to your life to grow healthier I will suggest you sleep more if you sleep less than seven or eight hours a day. Yes, napping also has an energizing role in our health quest. Rest is such a broad and grey area and it appears sleep is only part of the whole enigma of REST. Now you will understand why an evening with family or friends out of home after a tiring week invigorates you. Also there must be some magic spending time by the seaside even if you don’t sleep. How about playing music with friends? Rest is much more than sleep and though sleep is extremely important all the other forms of rest do matter as well.
A look at the 7 types of rest
1. Physical rest
a. We all know that feeling when you just want the body to take a break. It turns out physical rest can be broken down into two
i. Passive Rest ; lying down, sleeping, napping
ii. Active Rest; yoga, massage, stretching etc.
2. Mental rest
Typically one feels irritable, forgetful and unable to concentrate at work etc. May get eight hours of sleep yet feels horrible. This may be tell-tale signs that you need mental rest
How to fix this;
- Switch off your brain. Take short breaks every two hours talk about or write down your feelings so you are not carrying them around
3. Sensory rest
With the noise all around, bright lights, screen time and a host of others, our senses feel overwhelmed.
How to fix this;
- Simply close your eyes for a minute
- Unplug intentionally; Take a break from computers, phones, bright lights, noise and conversations
4. Creative rest
It is important to awaken the excitement deep within us. The glitter in our eyes. That is another realm of rest.
How to fix this;
- Walk in a beautiful place in nature, watch a movie, play a musical instrument, garden or do art. The good news is you do not even need to be good at it.
5. Emotional rest
Often we are unable to say NO when that is exactly what is needed. We accept additional engagements only to sit in our corner later and feel lonely and unappreciated.
How to fix this;
- Cut back on people-pleasing “adventures”
- Create time to freely express your feelings and emotions. “ME-TIME” and SELFCARE can’t be over emphasised
6. Social rest
It is rare to find someone who needs emotional rest BUT has no social rest deficit. They often come as a “couple”. We need to be able to differentiate between relationships that energise us and those that drain all we have.
How to fix this;
- supportive and positive people, rather than people that exhaust you.
- Engage in conversation and stay focused. Paying attention does wonders to our brain
7. Spiritual rest
We all need to rely on the power of a superior being and for me it is GOD! We need that sense of belonging (child of God), love and a PURPOSE. That gives us the needed rest
How to fix this;
- Prayer
- Praise and worship to The Almighty
- Meditation
- Service to the community
My advice is let us put all these into practice as often as possible. Every day is possible. Do not wait till you are too tired or feel totally broken before you search for these tips. The time is now and remember SLEEP is supreme but we need the other forms of rest to be complete. Seek professional medical care if you continue to feel “unrested”.
AS ALWAYS LAUGH OFTEN, ENSURE HYGIENE, WALK AND PRAY EVERYDAY AND REMEMBER IT’S A PRICELESS GIFT TO KNOW YOUR NUMBERS (blood sugar, blood pressure, blood cholesterol, BMI)
Dr. Kojo Cobba Essel
Health Essentials Ltd/Medics Clinic
(www.healthessentialsgh.com)
Dr. Essel is a Medical Doctor with a keen interest in Lifestyle Medicine, He holds an MBA and is an ISSA Specialist in Exercise Therapy, Fitness Nutrition and Corrective Exercise. He is the author of the award-winning book, ‘Unravelling The Essentials of Health & Wealth.
Thought for the week – “Whatever you practise grows stronger, what are you practising now?”
References:
1. Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD – ideas.ted.com
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Wellness nuggets that work magic
2025 appears to be in a hurry, but isn’t that what we say every year? Information overload is real and when it comes to health and wellness not all we come across is backed by science
I have been thinking about CERVICAL CANCER AWARENESS and a number of the nuggets will look at this preventable / manageable cancer. My goal regarding cervical cancer prevention is to encourage, coerce all ladies in the age group to be screened.
The watch word(s) should be prevention and early detection of changes.
1. Cervical cancer is the most preventable of all female cancers. Do the following.
a. Have regular cervical screening tests e.g. once every three years depending on findings
b. Get vaccinated against Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
c. Practice safe sex
d. Live a smoke-free life
e. Eat a balanced diet to help support your immune system
2. Signs and symptoms of Cervical Cancer you should not ignore
a. Vaginal bleeding that is abnormal for you
b. Bleeding after sexual intercourse
c. Bleeding between periods
d. Heavier periods than usual
e. Changes in vaginal discharge
f. Pain during sexual intercourse
g. Persistent pain in your pelvis or lower back
3. Risk factors for Cervical Cancer
a. Any woman with a cervix
b. Anyone who is sexually active
c. Anyone with an HPV infection
d. Anyone who smokes and drinks alcohol
e. Family history of cervical cancer
4. The Human Papilloma Virus is the most common sexually transmitted infection and is the cause of almost all cervical cancer (WHO).
5. Exercise has that immediate effect of improving your mood, focus and attention. With increased exercise over your lifetime, you slow the expression of diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Dementia.
6. The best way to burn off the stress hormones without having to change your thinking is to move and sweat. Run, dance, jump, swim, stretch or skip; do something vigorous and lively. Yoga is also fabulous, as it combines movement and breathing.
7. Self-Care Check List 1
a. Listen to your body
b. Move more
c. Eat healthy
d. Breathe right
e. Avoid harmful substances and excess of anything
f. Get enough sleep
g. Cultivate gratitude and joy
8. Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your beliefs literally communicate with every aspect of your biology every second. Yes your thoughts communicate with your cells. They all help to determine so much about your health.
9. Some Longevity Principles
a. Avoid ultra-processed foods
b. Get quality sleep
c. Strength exercises is a MUST!
d. Build community and purpose
e. Practice stress management
10. Food is not only a source of energy, joy, connection and pleasure; it can also rejuvenate us and even reverse disease. Would you rather be powered by junk food?
AS ALWAYS LAUGH OFTEN, ENSURE HYGIENE, WALK AND PRAY EVERYDAY AND REMEMBER IT’S A PRICELESS GIFT TO KNOW YOUR NUMBERS (blood sugar, blood pressure, blood cholesterol, BMI)
Dr. Kojo Cobba Essel
Health Essentials Ltd/ Medics Clinic
(dressel@healthessentialsgh. com)
Dr. Essel is a Medical Doctor with a keen interest in Lifestyle Medicine, He holds an MBA and is an ISSA Specialist in Exercise Therapy, Fitness Nutrition and Corrective Exercise. He is the author of the award-winning book, ‘Unravelling The Essentials of Health & Wealth.’
Thought for the week – “with better access to vaccination, screenings and treatments, cervical cancer can be eliminated.”- WHO
Reference:
1. Cervical Cancer Awareness – The Bank Hospital
2. Cervical Cancer Awareness – Medpluspharmacyng
3. World Health Organization (WHO)
4. VK Fitness
5. Dr Mark Hyman
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