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‘Breasts go kill man’
The Breast is part of the human body at the upper front part. It is the tissues overlying the chest muscles. According to www.webmd.com, women’s breasts are made of specialised tissue that produces milk (glandular tissue) as well as fatty tissue.
The amount of fat determines the size of the breast. It is the main source of nutrition for babies. Health experts recommend breast milk for feeding of babies for at least six months after birth due to the wholeness of the meal it provides.
According to the health experts, it contains protein, fats and carbohydrates and minerals which make it the ideal meal for babies.
It is something that engages the focus of most men and if you are a woman who is not substantially endowed, it could really pose a problem for you in getting a life partner. I am sure the ladies are aware and that is why they go to all lengths to increase the size of their breasts.
Some of us who happen to be the only boy among many siblings, we have the privilege of how our sisters as girls growing up, sometimes wear our mother’s brassiers jokingly.
This shows how important they value their breasts even as young children and they grow up desiring substantial increase in the size of their breasts and account for the huge numbers of women who have undergone breast implant all over the world.
However, there is an interesting mystery that needs to be resolved when it comes to men’s attitude towards the breasts of women. Most women who have both male and female children tell of the strong desire of their male babies for breast milk compared with the female babies.
Funnily enough, when they grow to become men, they still are attracted to it, a fact most married women would attest to. What exactly is with women’s breasts that so engage the attention of men is something worth looking into.
I recall a funny story that a junior at the secondary school, who is now a Bishop of a Church in the United Kingdom (UK), told us. According to him, he attended a Christian fellowship meeting at Tema (Ghana) and a funny incident occurred as they were dancing during the praises session.
He told us that, as people were excited and were dancing and jumping, he saw a lady wearing a pink dress which was not very opaque and as she was jumping up and down, her breasts were also following suit and he found himself gazing at them.
A few moments later, he came to himself and suddenly realised that he had been doing what a Christian should not be doing. Such is the attractive power of women’s breast on men, and if you do not discipline your eyes and your emotions it could land you in serious trouble. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’ and that is what happened to a man who now finds himself in deep trouble.
According to a news item shown on one of the popular TV stations, a man is on the run after assaulting his wife in an attempt to kill her. The story has it that the wife confronted the husband after her daughter who is the man’s stepdaughter complained to her mother that her stepfather has been making sexual advances at her.
The girl then was asked about what happened and she related that her stepfather on one occasion, fondled her breasts and sucked them and then warned her that if she tells her mum, he would kill her and she should know that she is the only child of her mum and that he would also kill himself after killing her. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
A lady shared a story many years ago about a problem a man confided in her so that she could in a nice way convince his wife so that the house help would be sent back to her parents to save him from adultery.
Apparently the young lady considered the man like her father having stayed long with the couple and developed a very cordial relationship between the man and his wife. She ,therefore, did not cover herself well and it did not occur to her that she was causing problems for the man.
The man claimed that on occasions in his presence, the young lady could show her breast to his wife to examine something, say a rash or something on her breast without any sense of shyness.
To her, they were her parents but it was causing the man’s emotions to run riot in his groin and he then decided to do something about the situation to prevent embarrassing himself and destroying his marriage. Indeed, ‘breasts go kill man’
One of the media stations also showed a documentary concerning the life of prostitutes and a prostitute was interviewed to share her story to enable viewers to have an idea about the harrowing experiences these so-called sex workers go through.
The lady in response to a question as to whether she let the patrons have access to her breasts, said no and that access to her breasts attracted extra fee. The journalist doing the interview then asked whether the patrons were willing to pay and she said yes and that a lot of them paid the extra to get access to her breasts. It definitely ‘go kill man’.
Not to sound sacrilegious, I am 100 per cent sure that a lot of the pastors both junior and seniors, if they will tell the truth, will confess that they are very much excited at the sight of pointed breasts of their spouses.
I think that, that is the reason some women cut short the six month recommended period for breast feeding babies to prevent their breasts from sagging. Again, I suspect it is one of the reasons some indisciplined pastors engage in fornication because they are easily tempted when doing spiritual deliverance and part of the ladies breasts undergoing deliverance become exposed.
If you are a Christian and you do not want your pastor to fall to temptation, then please pray seriously for them and advise the ‘Asafo Maame” also not to deny access of her boobs to your pastor, because “breasts go kill man’.
BY LAUD KISSI-MENSAH
The writer is a social commentator
When Abigail Fremah steps up to the Armwrestling table, the noise fades, the tension settles, and order takes over.
Despite a calm, but firm and meticulous disposition, she has become one of the quiet forces shaping Ghana’s growing reputation in the sport, not as an athlete, but a referee trusted on the continental stage.
Abigail’s journey into Armwrestling did not begin at the table. Like many Ghanaian sports enthusiasts, she grew up playing several disciplines. Football was her first love, but she also featured in volleyball and basketball during her school years. Sports, she says, was simply a way of life not just for her.
“It runs through the family. All my siblings are into sports,” she stated.
“I was involved in almost every sport in school, football, volleyball, netball, hockey; I did everything,” she recalls.
Her academic background in Health, Physical Education and Recreation laid a solid foundation for her sporting career. While on scholarship at the university (University of Cape Coast), she often used her modest budget to support young athletes, sometimes sharing skills and even T-shirts at programmes she attended. Giving back, she explains, has always been part of her motivation.
However, as she matured as an athlete, Abigail made a critical self-assessment.
“Armwrestling involves a lot of strength,” she admits. “Looking at my body type, I realised I couldn’t fit properly as a competitive athlete.”
That moment of honesty pushed her to a different trajectory but equally important path in sports; which is officiating.
During her National Service, she was encouraged by Mr Charles Osei Asibey, the President of the Ghana Armwrestling Federation (GAF), to consider officiating. He introduced her to a technical official, Mr Hussein Akuerteh Addy, who formally took her through the basics of Armwrestling officiating in 2021.
“I started as a case official,” she says. “We moved from region to region every week, officiating competitions. That’s where it all began.”
By 2022, Abigail was actively involved in national assignments, though she missed the African Championship that year. Her breakthrough came in 2023, when Ghana hosted the African Armwrestling Championship.
It was her first experience officiating at a major international competition and it changed everything.
“That was my first national and international exposure at the same time,” she says. “It really opened my eyes.”
Today, Abigail is a World Junior Armwrestling Referee, a status earned through performance, consistency and discipline. She explains that progression in officiating was not automatic.
“It’s all about performance, your appearance at African Championships, your conduct, how you handle pressure; that’s what takes you to the world level,” she stressed.
As a referee, Abigail’s priority is safety and fairness. Armwrestling, she notes, comes with risks, particularly injuries to the wrists, elbows, shoulders and arms.
“If athletes don’t follow the rules or refuse to listen to officials, injuries can happen,” she explains, adding that focus was everything.
Before every match, she ensures that all equipment which includes elbow pads, hand pegs and table alignment were properly set. Athletes are not allowed to cover their elbows, must grip correctly, and must follow the referee’s commands precisely.
“We make sure everything is fixed before the grip,” she says. “Once we say ‘Ready… Go’, there should be no confusion.”
She is also firm on discipline. Warnings are issued for infractions, and repeated misconduct attracts penalties.
“The referee must be respected, if you don’t listen, the rules will deal with you,” she says.
Abigail credits her confidence partly to her sporting family background. Her mother was a volleyball player, while other family members also participated in sports. Though they were initially concerned about her safety, her rise to the top reassured them.
“They were afraid at first,” she admits. “But they were also very proud, especially because some of them never got the opportunity to reach this level.”
Looking ahead, Abigail is optimistic about the future of Armwrestling in Ghana. In less than a decade, the country has produced African and world-level medalists, a sign, she believes, of great things to come for Ghana.
“Whenever we go out, we come back with medals such as gold and silver,” she says, and to her that was a sign of growth.
In the next five to ten years, Abigail sees herself rising to become a World Master Referee, the highest officiating level in the sport. Until then, her routine remains intense, training four times a week, working closely with athletes, standing on her feet for hours, and constantly refining her understanding of the rules.
“I love this sport,” she says simply. “That love is what keeps me going.”
Abigail encouraged women to be bold and intentional about their place in sports saying “don’t limit yourself because of fear or stereotypes.”
She also urged women to invest in learning, discipline and consistency, stressing that respect was earned through performance.
For Abigail, as Ghana’s armwrestlers continue to make their mark, she will remain where she is most effective at the table, ensuring the game is played right.
By Esinam Jemima Kuatsinu
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As he had promised Aperkeh, the elderly man and his wife and three daughters stopped by Aperkeh’s parents’ house. Mr Amando and his family were preparing to settle in for the night.
“Brother Ben and family”, Mr Joshua Amando said warmly, “although I know you are here on a matter that can hardly be described as joyous, it is still good to see you. You are welcome. Please sit down while I bring you water”.
“Yes, we will take water, even though we are hardly thirsty, because this is our home”.
“Okay, Ben”, he started after they had drank, “Let me go straight to the point. My daughter Priscilla has told me about the goings on between her brother Aperkeh and our daughter Stella.
Before informing me, Priscilla had expressed concern to Aperkeh about some habits he is adopting, especially the late nights and the drinking. She tells me that one Saturday morning, she was there when Stella complained about his drinking and some girls who had come to the house to look for him, and he assaulted her.
I called him and complained, but all he could say was that I don’t know what caused him to react that way, so I could not judge him. Now he does not answer my calls.
I have sent Priscilla to his house to call him, but he has refused to come. Unfortunately, Ben, my son is a much different person than the young boy who completed university and started work at the bank. I am really embarrassed about his treatment of Stella”.
“Joshua, let me assure you that even though what is happening is very unfortunate, it will not affect our relationship.
We have been friends since childhood, and I thought that with their parents’ blessing, the relationship between Aperkeh and Stella would grow to become a blessing to all of us. But there appears to be a real challenge now.
Stella thinks that Aperkeh wants her out of his house, and indeed Aperkeh himself told me that, about an hour ago.
So I’m taking my daughter home. I suggest that you do what you can to straighten him out, but if it does not work out, let’s accept the situation and continue to be one family.
I am sure that being the well behaved girl that she is, Stella will meet a young man who will cherish her. Fortunately, this problem is happening early in the day, so they can sort things out if possible, or move on with their lives if they are unable to stay together”.
“I’m really grateful for that, Ben. I will do my best in the next few days to reason with him, because apart from the relationship with Stella, Aperkeh is risking his job and career with this lifestyle.
A good job and salary offers an opportunity to gather momentum in life, not to destroy yourself”.
“Okay Brother Joshua. We will say goodnight. I hope to hear positive news from you”.
As he descended in the lift from the fourth to the ground floor, Aperkeh wondered who would be waiting at the reception to see him at nine on Monday morning. He had spent good time with both of his new girls during the weekend, so it had to be someone else. He got out of the lift and pulled a face when he saw Priscilla.
“Priscilla”, he said as he sat down by her, “what do you want here? You know Monday morning is a busy time at the bank. I am a very busy person, so say what you want, I have work to do”.
“You are very funny, Aperkeh. You are telling me, your sister, that you have work to do, so I should hurry up? Okay, Dad says I should advise you to come home tonight, because he wants to discuss the issue of Stella with you. He sent me to you twice, and you did not come.
He has tried to call you quite a number of times, but you have refused to answer his calls. He says that if you do not come tonight, you will be very surprised at what he will do. He says you will not like it at all, so better come.
“What is all this? Why won’t you people leave me alone? Stella is very disrespectful. I told her that if she wanted to continue to live in my house, she must obey me. It is that simple.
She chose to continue ordering me about, controlling me in my own house, so I told her that if she could not live under my conditions she should leave. And she left. In fact, her own father came and took her away. So what again?’’
“How did she disobey or control you? Was she complaining about your continuous drinking and late nights? And did you slap her on several occasions because of that? Did you tell her that if she could not live under your conditions she should leave? You actually said that to her father? You have forgotten that before she came to live with you, our two parents met and agreed, and gave it their blessing?’
“Why don’t you leave, Priscilla? I don’t have to listen to all that”. “Okay, I will go. Your father who gave birth to you and educated you to university level sends me to you, and you ask me to leave? I wish you would defy him, and refuse to come home as he’s telling you, because he is planning to give you the discipline you badly need. Let me tell you. Stella is such a beautiful and decent girl, and I assure you that someone will grab her before you say Jack. You are only 30 years old, and you have already become a drunkard”.
As he walked towards the lift, Aperkeh decided on what to do. He would go home, and calmly listen to what his father had to say. The old man was very unpredictable, and he wouldn’t dare ignore him. So he would take all the insults and threats, but as for Stella she was history. According to Priscilla, Stella was beautiful and all that, but she had not seen the two curvaceous princesses who were all over him, ready to do anything he asked. And these were not barely literate waakye girls, but university graduates from wealthy homes, really classy girls. With stuff like that, who needs a waakye girl? He smiled as he took his seat.
A few minutes to five, Aperkeh was packing up to leave for home to meet his dad when his phone rang. It was Priscilla.
“Aperkeh, Dad says you don’t need to bother to come. Stella’s dad says she came to him early this morning to plead that she would rather stay at home than return to your house. She thinks you are already decided to be rid of her, and she does not want to risk being assaulted again. So it’s done. You can go ahead and enjoy the nice life you have started”.
Before he could tell her to go to hell, Priscilla hanged up the line. He was partially stung that his dad had virtually cut him off. The last thing anyone would want was to fall out of relationship with his own family, which had always supported him.
But the truth was he was no longer interested in Stella. What was wrong with going by one’s feelings? He could only hope that one day, his parents and sister would try to reason with him.
By Ekow de Heer
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