Obaa Yaa
She is pregnant
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A few weeks ago, I reached out to Obaa Yaa, and she promptly addressed my concern, for which I am grateful.
Since then, I have entered into a relationship, but my extended period of singlehood led to a lack of control during intimate moments, resulting in the unintended pregnancy of my partner.
As a young man without employment, I am unsure how to provide for both the mother and the unborn child. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused; can you offer any guidance?
Kelvin Boakye,
Osu
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Dear Kelvin,
I AM grateful you took the advice I gave you concerning your issue a few weeks ago and I must say I am happy for your growth.
In your case, I must say, you should try hard and get a job. Having and taking care of children comes with a lot of responsibility of which finances come first.
You must be financially sound so that the child and your home will not lack anything. If you are good at handmade entrepreneurial skills, I would advise you to try your hands on them. Do not be idle.
Sitting idle does not solve a problem. Know that you have a big task in front of you therefore you should face it like a man. Get a job and start saving money towards unforeseen problems too. Wishing you all the best in life.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.
However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.
Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.
According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.
Thomas, Wa.
Dear Thomas,
First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.
If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.
Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.
At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.
A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.
If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.
I wish you all the best.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
