Obaa Yaa
My Sister doesn’t trust me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My sister and I have been living together peacefully for a number of years and we do everything together.
She was my best friend and confidant, but suddenly, everything changed when she saw me conversing and smiling with her boyfriend.
She suspects that I have been going out with him for which reason she is now demanding that l leave her house.
I have explained to her several times about my innocence, yet she would not listen. This means she does not trust me.
I am confused and don’t know what to do, since I have nowhere to go. Please I need your help.
Agnes, Accra.
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Dear Agnes,
This is a matter between you and your God, and your conscience will bear you out.
There have been instances when people developed good and genuine relations with the boyfriends or girlfriends of their relatives. In such instances, sincerity played a significant role in the relationship.
Unfortunately, there were other instances that people who defied morality, exploited the trust reposed in them and misbehaved.
Some people who are over-jealous so far as issues pertaining to relationship is concerned, have acted without judging matters rightly.
The attitude of your sister suggests she is extremely jealous and does not trust you and her boyfriend. On the contrary, could it be that her action is due to your past behaviour?
The best she could have done was to find out from her boyfriend and interview you to ascertain the truth.
Since you maintain your innocence in this case, inform your parents to enable them to intervene as early as possible.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
