Obaa Yaa

He keeps threatening me

Published

2 years ago

November 18, 2023

Dear Obaa Yaa

My best friend’s boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and any time I try to end it, he threatens to tell my friend.

They have been dating for five years and planning to get married next year but he does not want to let me go.

I have stopped sending messages or calling him in an attempt to end our relationship, but he never goes a day without doing so. He will either keep calling or come to my shop to look for me if I do not pick up.

And when I refuse to be intimate with him, then his threats start. He sometimes tells me that I will definitely be his second wife and that scares me to death.

I really want to tell my friend but I am afraid that might cost us our lovely friendship and even our business together.

Please what should I do?

Akua, Amasaman.

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Dear Akua,

First and foremost, you are responsible for the results of your actions. Why did you date him even though you knew he was your friend’s boyfriend?

This gentleman is a womaniser; someone who has no remorse and by his character he cannot work for a successful marriage.

Additionally, he will never be content with his wife. He is capable of breaking marriages and friendships.

Despite his continuous threats to expose your amorous relationship with him to your friend, you must take the bull by the horn and sever links with him, because he will tarnish your reputation and destroy your future.

You must take this bold decission in order to save your friendship with your friend and secure your business.

Obaa Yaa

He introduced me wrongly

Published

5 days ago

April 11, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I visited my boyfriend at his office only to meet him and a young lady having a serious chat.

He politely introduced the lady to me as his workmate and also introduced me as a friend without telling the lady that I am his lover.

When he came home and I went over to spend the night, he seemed not to find any fault with what he did.

He was rather giving attitude and pretending as if I don’t even exist in his life.

I then told him I was not happy that he did not give me the proper acknowledgment as his lover.

Do you think he has something up his sleeve and did not want the lady he called workmate to know that we are lovers?

Greetings,
Araba, Mamobi.

Dear Araba,

FOR very good reasons, certain individuals would not want to publicise their love affairs. They believe love is a private matter and not for public consumption, and would prefer to run their relationships quietly.

Others also think that once they are not married and have not found the right person, there is no need introducing anyone until they are fully committed and envision a lifetime relationship.

So you cannot immediately judge the motive of your boyfriend for not introducing you appropriately, although it is also possible that he could have feelings for the other lady.

However, do not get worked up. Stay calm, and with time, the truth will become clear.

Obaa Yaa

My wife wants 2 more children

Published

5 days ago

April 11, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I HAVE been married for five years with three children. They are two boys and a girl.

Due to the economic situation prevailing in the country, I advised my wife to stop making babies. This is to enable us to cater for them and give them the best of education.

Unfortunately, my wife is not in agreement with the proposal but is bent on having two more children before she ends it.

As a result, she has stopped taking the family planning precautions and wants us to have unprotected sex.

I am contemplating going in for vasectomy which will make me unable to produce children but all the same enjoy our sex life.

My fear is that if my wife discovers that she is not getting pregnant, she may be tempted to cheat on me.

Please advise me.

Amevi, Ho.

Dear Amevi,

THE Bible says the two shall be one. In my opinion, one person cannot decide on the number of children to have.

There must be a mutual understanding between the two of you. You must be more communicative to agree on what will suit both of you.

You must be able to convince your wife that the economic situation is not favourable for more children. And you must make her know that until your (both of you) financial circumstances improve, more children will be a burden on the family.

If she insists on more children, then she must justify it with an increase in her income and her willingness to take up the extra burden.

If she cannot justify it, then you can go for your vasectomy and let her know. That way, I think she cannot cheat on you and bring you a pregnancy that belongs to another person.