Obaa Yaa
Though married, she is worrying me
Two years ago, l met a female driver whose car had a punctured tyre and at the same time her phone also went off for which reason she could not call the husband for assistance.
I had to take the tyre to be worked on, returned and fixed it for her after which she heaved a sigh of relief.
Filled with excitement that day, she picked me in her car and took me home to know where l lived.
That evening, l had a call from a man who introduced himself as the husband of the lady l had assisted earlier in the day.
The following morning, l was surprised to see the couple in my house with a big parcel for me. Though l objected and explained that l did not help the lady in anticipation of a gift but the man said that was the beginning of their kindness and added that l was always welcome to their house.
The following week, the lady invited me out for dinner and in the process told me that she loved me and was grateful that l had assisted her at the time she was in dire need.
Although l was tipsy after drinking enough alcohol, l failed to resist the temptation and continued to drink until l could not walk any longer.
Unfortunately, l woke up only to discover that l was lying in bed with this woman. This lady gives me money every day and has told me that she enjoyed making love with me and pleads that we should continue. But l am afraid of my actions and l have decided not to have an affair with her again. How can you help me out of this case? L need an urgent help.
Kwame, Accra
Dear Kwame,
You should not take pleasure in the money this married woman is showering on you and continue to indulge in illegitimate sex with her.
This act is abominable and you must resist every attempt by this woman to entice you to bed. You must be careful because this woman’s husband could contract people to kill you, if he gets to know what you are doing. A word to a wise is enough.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Thank you for publishing my article with the heading above. I am back to answer your two questions.
Luckily, my in-laws are in their family house whilst we are in our own house. It all started when my husband started building a house.
I didn’t know they disliked me. I’ve always tried to play my role as an in-law.
But upon an attitude they developed, I have stopped.
Now, they come in groups to my house to insult me for no reason. My step daughter who is in Junior High School (JHS) 3 has been turned against me.
Now the girl only visit the house just to disrespect me and return to her aunties.
My husband mostly get angry over his family’s behaviour and exchange words with them sometimes. They insult him in turn, claiming I have cast a spell on him.
They are under the impression that my husband has transferred all the household properties to me, including two cars he has already registered in my name.
The situation is very painful and distressing. We are both worried.
My children are much worried because they can no longer visit the family house.
Obaa, let me hear from you soon, as this man needs to bless the marriage at the church.
Cecilia Antwi,
Mampong
Dear Cecilia,
Thanks for responding to our letter. The situation calls for a family meeting to resolve the issue once and for all.
Make a formal complaint to your family head and let him summon both families for a formal arbitration so that both parties can air their grievances to pave the way for differences to be ironed out.
You may also complain to your pastor to act in concert with the family head to make the summons a more effective one.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I overhead my wife talking to someone on the phone. I still don’t know who that person was but it could be any of her friends.
In her conversation, I overheard her telling someone how lucky the person was. She said “Do you know how much he gives me to keep the home? I am even tired of the marriage.”
These words from my wife shocked me. In her conversation, he insulted me to her friend, describing me as a lazy person.
Our marriage is only two years old and we don’t have a child. I work very hard but I earn little.
When I confronted her, she told me she was just joking and for that matter is not something serious.
I didn’t want to drag it but the more I think of it, the more I get hurt knowing the woman I married doesn’t appreciate my effort.
What hurt me the most was when she said her friend should give her husband to her.
I am lost, I feel she doesn’t need me in her life. How can I forget about this?
Abraham, Takoradi
Dear Abraham,
Have you considered having an open and honest conversation with your wife about how you are feeling?
In my opinion, it is possible that she is not aware of the efforts you are making.
Communication is key in any relationship, and talking things through can help clear up misunderstandings and strengthen your bond.
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