Obaa Yaa

Though married, she is worrying me

Published

4 years ago

December 6, 2021

Two years ago, l met a female driver whose car had a punctured tyre and at the same time her phone also went off for which reason she could not call the husband for assistance.

I had to take the tyre to be worked on, returned and fixed it for her after which she heaved a sigh of relief.

Filled with excitement that day, she picked me in her car and took me home to know where l lived.

That evening, l had a call from a man who introduced himself as the husband of the lady l had assisted earlier in the day.

The following morning, l was surprised to see the couple in my house with a big parcel for me. Though l objected and explained that l did not help the lady in anticipation of a gift but the man said that was the beginning of their kindness and added that l was always welcome to their house.

The following week, the lady invited me out for dinner and in the process told me that she loved me and was grateful that l had assisted her at the time she was in dire need.

Although l was tipsy after drinking enough alcohol, l failed to resist the temptation and continued to drink until l could not walk any longer.

Unfortunately, l woke up only to discover that l was lying in bed with this woman. This lady gives me money every day and has told me that she enjoyed making love with me and pleads that we should continue. But l am afraid of my actions and l have decided not to have an affair with her again. How can you help me out of this case? L need an urgent help.

Kwame, Accra

Dear Kwame,

You should not take pleasure in the money this married woman is showering on you and continue to indulge in illegitimate sex with her.

This act is abominable and you must resist every attempt by this woman to entice you to bed. You must be careful because this woman’s husband could contract people to kill you, if he gets to know what you are doing. A word to a wise is enough.

Obaa Yaa

My journalist fiancé has no time for me

Published

6 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.

Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.

By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.

He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.

I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.

Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.

Paulina,
Dodowa.

Dear Paulina,

THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.

That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.

And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.

However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.

Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.

Obaa Yaa

My boss wants me to wear short skirt

Published

6 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.

My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.

My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.

He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.

Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.

Please advise me.

Emefa,
Sogakope.

Dear Emefa,

Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.

Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.

You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.

However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.