Obaa Yaa
Should l take him back?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We were classmates and later fell in love after we had completed school. Though l was pregnant at a time he was not employed and, therefore, had to depend solely on our parents, our love for each other was great.
He was forced to perform my marriage rites after which l moved to stay in his house.
We spent precious times together and made fervent prayers for God’s intervention in our marriage. Fortunately, God listened to our prayers and he secured a job which exceedingly gladdened my heart.
I thought that would permanently end our suffering but that rather marked the beginning of my worries.
Weeks after my husband had got the job, he always gave excuses of attending meetings after work, delayed in coming from work and finally chose to sleep in town.
After some months, he packed his things from the house and went to stay with another woman and has since failed to visit me.
Four years later and now that he has lost his job, he is pleading that l should accept him back. Is it my fate to cater for a jobless husband?
What step should l take?
Mary, Tema.
Dear Mary,
There is no transparency in the character of your husband because he only knows you exist only when he is in crises but shuns your company when conditions have changed.
There is no guarantee that he will stay glued to you when he gets another job.
l don’t think your husband can be trusted based on his previous behaviour.
The Woman Seduced Me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old student who lost both parents at the age of 16.
I stayed with my late mother’s friend, a woman about 40 years old who lives in the same area.
After the death of my parents, she told me to come and stay with her. She promised to take good care of me because of the good relationship she had with my mother.
I moved from my former house to the woman’s place. In fact, she was kind to me and gave me all that I needed.
About three months later, the woman forced me to have sex with her. Since then, she has been making advances toward me and I am uncomfortable.
Obaa Yaa, how can an innocent boy like me escape from this trap?
Ramsey, Kasoa New Market.
Dear Ramsey,
YOU are indeed in trouble. If a woman who has assumed the position of a mother in your life has seduced you, then it is virtually equivalent to incest.
I suggest you begin to think about leaving the place.
Where are your relatives? Can’t any of them offer you a place, especially since both parents are late?
That should have been your first step instead of moving in with a friend.
Meanwhile, be on your guard and avoid being caught in any compromising situation with her now that you know what she is capable of.
Ask God for protection as you search for a new home. Commit your entire situation to prayer.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM 18 years old and she is also 18 years.
We have been lovers for the past two years.
I have a friend who knew about our relationship. This best friend of mine came home from school with his friend with the intention of giving him a girlfriend from his hometown.
This best friend of mine introduced my girlfriend to him and when I returned from school I was told about this sad issue.
I asked the girl and she replied negatively for several times. I was then advised by my friend to stop asking her about it.
For the second time my friend came with the same boy, but this time, I was there and in fact I really saw what happened and it was too horrifying.
Obaa Yaa, I made my mind to fight both boys but I later changed my mind.
She is very supportive and assists me with some of my needs in school.
What should I do, Obaa Yaa? She has still been visiting me but I’m worried.
O. D. Kennedy, Koforidua-E/R
Dear Kennedy,
I DOUBT if the person you claim to be your best friend is indeed a friend at all.
Why didn’t you confront him about this?
In any case, you don’t have to worry about her being snatched because it appears she loves you.
The only problem is that you are being over-anxious about the situation and feeling jealous.
For the time being, if you claim the boy trying to give out your girl is your best friend, then confront him and ask him to stop being treacherous — but don’t fight him.
