Obaa Yaa
Should l take him back?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We were classmates and later fell in love after we had completed school. Though l was pregnant at a time he was not employed and, therefore, had to depend solely on our parents, our love for each other was great.
He was forced to perform my marriage rites after which l moved to stay in his house.
We spent precious times together and made fervent prayers for God’s intervention in our marriage. Fortunately, God listened to our prayers and he secured a job which exceedingly gladdened my heart.
I thought that would permanently end our suffering but that rather marked the beginning of my worries.
Weeks after my husband had got the job, he always gave excuses of attending meetings after work, delayed in coming from work and finally chose to sleep in town.
After some months, he packed his things from the house and went to stay with another woman and has since failed to visit me.
Four years later and now that he has lost his job, he is pleading that l should accept him back. Is it my fate to cater for a jobless husband?
What step should l take?
Mary, Tema.
Dear Mary,
There is no transparency in the character of your husband because he only knows you exist only when he is in crises but shuns your company when conditions have changed.
There is no guarantee that he will stay glued to you when he gets another job.
l don’t think your husband can be trusted based on his previous behaviour.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
