Obaa Yaa
Though married, she is worrying me
Two years ago, l met a female driver whose car had a punctured tyre and at the same time her phone also went off for which reason she could not call the husband for assistance.
I had to take the tyre to be worked on, returned and fixed it for her after which she heaved a sigh of relief.
Filled with excitement that day, she picked me in her car and took me home to know where l lived.
That evening, l had a call from a man who introduced himself as the husband of the lady l had assisted earlier in the day.
The following morning, l was surprised to see the couple in my house with a big parcel for me. Though l objected and explained that l did not help the lady in anticipation of a gift but the man said that was the beginning of their kindness and added that l was always welcome to their house.
The following week, the lady invited me out for dinner and in the process told me that she loved me and was grateful that l had assisted her at the time she was in dire need.
Although l was tipsy after drinking enough alcohol, l failed to resist the temptation and continued to drink until l could not walk any longer.
Unfortunately, l woke up only to discover that l was lying in bed with this woman. This lady gives me money every day and has told me that she enjoyed making love with me and pleads that we should continue. But l am afraid of my actions and l have decided not to have an affair with her again. How can you help me out of this case? L need an urgent help.
Kwame, Accra
Dear Kwame,
You should not take pleasure in the money this married woman is showering on you and continue to indulge in illegitimate sex with her.
This act is abominable and you must resist every attempt by this woman to entice you to bed. You must be careful because this woman’s husband could contract people to kill you, if he gets to know what you are doing. A word to a wise is enough.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I visited my boyfriend at his office only to meet him and a young lady having a serious chat.
He politely introduced the lady to me as his workmate and also introduced me as a friend without telling the lady that I am his lover.
When he came home and I went over to spend the night, he seemed not to find any fault with what he did.
He was rather giving attitude and pretending as if I don’t even exist in his life.
I then told him I was not happy that he did not give me the proper acknowledgment as his lover.
Do you think he has something up his sleeve and did not want the lady he called workmate to know that we are lovers?
Greetings,
Araba, Mamobi.
Dear Araba,
FOR very good reasons, certain individuals would not want to publicise their love affairs. They believe love is a private matter and not for public consumption, and would prefer to run their relationships quietly.
Others also think that once they are not married and have not found the right person, there is no need introducing anyone until they are fully committed and envision a lifetime relationship.
So you cannot immediately judge the motive of your boyfriend for not introducing you appropriately, although it is also possible that he could have feelings for the other lady.
However, do not get worked up. Stay calm, and with time, the truth will become clear.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I HAVE been married for five years with three children. They are two boys and a girl.
Due to the economic situation prevailing in the country, I advised my wife to stop making babies. This is to enable us to cater for them and give them the best of education.
Unfortunately, my wife is not in agreement with the proposal but is bent on having two more children before she ends it.
As a result, she has stopped taking the family planning precautions and wants us to have unprotected sex.
I am contemplating going in for vasectomy which will make me unable to produce children but all the same enjoy our sex life.
My fear is that if my wife discovers that she is not getting pregnant, she may be tempted to cheat on me.
Please advise me.
Amevi, Ho.
Dear Amevi,
THE Bible says the two shall be one. In my opinion, one person cannot decide on the number of children to have.
There must be a mutual understanding between the two of you. You must be more communicative to agree on what will suit both of you.
You must be able to convince your wife that the economic situation is not favourable for more children. And you must make her know that until your (both of you) financial circumstances improve, more children will be a burden on the family.
If she insists on more children, then she must justify it with an increase in her income and her willingness to take up the extra burden.
If she cannot justify it, then you can go for your vasectomy and let her know. That way, I think she cannot cheat on you and bring you a pregnancy that belongs to another person.
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