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The unsung heroines (women): How young women can help young men overcome depression
DEPRESSION is a growing concern among young men, who are often socialised to suppress their emotions and maintain a tough exterior. However, this stigma can lead to devastating consequences, including increased rates of substance abuse, suicidal thoughts, and strained relationships.
In this article, I will explore the impact of depression on young men and the crucial role some young women play in helping overcome it.
The effects of depression on
young men
Depression can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or background. However, young men are particularly vulnerable due to societal expectations and traditional masculine norms. The pressure to conform to these norms can lead to:
1. Emotional suppression: Young men may feel forced to hide their emotions, leading to isolation and disconnection.
2. Increased risk-taking behaviour: Depression manifests as reckless behaviour, such as substance abuse or aggression, as a way to cope with emotional pain.
3. Strained relationships: Depression damages relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners, exacerbating feelings of loneliness.
The role of young women in
solving depression
Young women can play a vital role in helping young men overcome depression. By being supportive, understanding, and empathetic, they can help break down the stigma surrounding mental health. Here are three effective steps young women can take:
Step 1: Listen without judgment
Create a safe space for young men to express their emotions without fear of judgment or criticism. Listen actively, and validate their feelings, acknowledging that their experiences are real and worthy of attention.
Step 2: Encourage professional help
Support young men in seeking professional help, such as therapy or counselling. Offer to help them find resources, make appointments, or accompany them to sessions. Please encourage them to prioritise their mental health and well-being.
Step 3: Foster a supportive environment
Create a supportive environment by promoting open conversations about mental health. Encourage young men to express themselves, and model healthy emotional expression yourself. By doing so, you can help break down the stigma surrounding depression and create a culture of understanding and empathy.
Conclusion
Depression is a complex issue that requires a supportive and non-judgmental approach. Young women can play a vital role in helping young men overcome depression by listening without judgment, encouraging professional help, and fostering a supportive environment. By working together, we can create a culture that promotes mental health, understanding, and empathy. Let’s break the silence and support each other in the journey towards healing and recovery.
-Jerry Fiadzenu(AUCB Student)
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How unforgiveness, resentments destroy relationships and marriages
Unforgiveness and resentments can be toxic to relationships and marriages, causing irreparable damage if left unchecked. As a founder and director of an award-winning mental health and counselling firm, CPAC, I have seen firsthand the devastating effects of unresolved bitterness and anger on couples.
Imagine carrying a heavy backpack everywhere you go, filled with rocks representing past hurts and betrayals. Each rock weighs you down, making it harder to move forward. That is what unforgiveness can feel like in a relationship. When we refuse to forgive, we create a toxic environment that poisons our relationships.
Resentment can be a major obstacle to building and maintaining healthy relationships. When we harbor resentment, we can become preoccupied with past hurts, replaying them over and over in our minds. This can lead to feelings of anger, bitterness, and frustration, causing us to lash out at our partner or become withdrawn and distant.
Consider the story of Gifty and Daniel, a couple who had been married for 10 years. Gifty felt deeply hurt and betrayed when Daniel had an affair several years ago. Despite Daniel’s apology and efforts to rebuild their relationship, Gifty struggled to forgive. If they don’t receive lasting support, how do you think this will impact their marriage going forward?
The power of forgiveness
Forgiveness is a process that allows us to release the negative emotions associated with a particular hurt or betrayal. It is not about forgetting or condoning the offense, but rather about releasing the hold it has on us. Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for healing and rebuilding relationships.
Practical steps to forgiveness
1. Acknowledge your feelings: Recognise how you feel and give yourself permission to process those emotions.
2. Identify the hurt: Understand the specific hurt or betrayal that is causing your pain.
3. Let go of the need for revenge: Recognise that seeking revenge will not bring healing or closure.
4. Choose to forgive: Make a conscious decision to forgive, not for the other person’s sake, but for yours.
5. Work on rebuilding trust: If the hurt was caused by a betrayal of trust, work on rebuilding it through consistent changed behaviour and open communication.
Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts and rebuilding relationships. Couples should prioritise open and honest communication, actively listening to each other, and clarifying expectations. By doing so, they can avoid most misunderstandings and work through challenges together.
Practical tips for couples
– Practice empathy: Try to understand your partner’s perspective and feelings.
– Use “I” statements: Instead of blaming your partner, use “I” statements to express your feelings and thoughts.
– Take responsibility: Own up to your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions.
– Seek support: Consider couples therapy or counseling (check out Counselor Prince & Associates Consult, CPAC) to work through challenges and strengthen your relationship.
By following these practical tips and working on forgiveness, couples can build a stronger, more loving relationship that will stand the test of time.
In conclusion, unforgiveness and resentments can be toxic to relationships and marriages. By choosing to forgive and working on rebuilding trust, couples can create a stronger, more resilient relationship. Remember, forgiveness is a process, and it may take time. But with effort, commitment, and a willingness to work through challenges, couples can overcome the obstacles that stand in their way.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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Tips to improve family relationships
There is nothing like family. The people that are related by blood and marriage are expected to be our closest allies, greatest sources of love and support.
Too often, however, interactions with family are filled with misunderstanding and resentment, bickering and badgering.
Here are some tips to help bring family members closer
Take care of your health if you hope to take care of anyone else. The more demanding of your time your family is, the more you need to fit in exercise. Perhaps you and your family can seek out ways to exercise together.
1. Listen if you expect to be heard. Lack of communication is the loudest complaint in most families. The answer to “Why won’t they listen to me?” may be simply “You’re not listening to them.”
2. Teach emotional choice. Manage your moods by letting all feelings be OK, but not all behaviours. Model behavior that respects and encourages the feelings and rights of others yet make it clear that we have a choice about what to do with what we feel.
3. Teach generosity by receiving as well as giving. Giving and receiving are parts of the same loving continuum. If we don’t give, we find it hard to receive, and if we can’t receive, we don’t really have much to give. This is why selflessness carried to extremes is of little benefits to others.
4. Take responsibility for what you communicate silently. The very young and old are especially sensitive to nonverbal cues. More than our words, tone of voice, posture (body language), and facial expressions convey our feelings. We have to listen to our tone of voice and look at ourselves in pictures and in the mirror to assess our emotional congruency. Loving words coming through clenched teeth don’t feel loving—they feel confusing.
5. Don’t try to solve problems for your loved ones. Caring for your family doesn’t mean taking charge of their problems, giving unsolicited advice, or protecting them from their own emotions. Let them know their own strengths and allow them to ask you for what they need.
6. Make a lasting impression through actions. Your values will be communicated by your actions, no matter what you say. Be an example, not a nag.
7. Acknowledge your errors to everyone, including younger family members. Saying you’re sorry when you hurt someone you love, models humility and emotional integrity. You can demonstrate that no one is perfect, but everyone can learn at any age. Apologising proves you can forgive yourself and makes it easier to forgive others.
8. Discover what each person’s unique needs are. You can’t assume that your grandmother needs the same signs of love as your three-year-old or that either one will have the same needs next year. When in doubt, ask!
9. Be generous in expressing love. Everyone in a family (especially young children) needs the emotional reassurance of loving words, gestures, and looks. Those who demand the least emotional attention may need it most.
