Obaa Yaa

I am not interested in her

Published

6 months ago

October 4, 2025

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 30 years and she is 26 years. We are in the same training college. I met this lady who looks exactly like my sister two years ago.

I approached and informed her about her resemblance to my late sister. I told her of my willingness to take her as a sister and she accepted.

This lady is financially sound, therefore, all the financial difficulties that I faced during the initial stages in the training college were catered for by her.

I sometimes take her home and all my siblings liked her.

I have a feeling that the interest the lady has developed in me is beyond the ‘brother and sister.’

Sometimes, she mentions marriage to me but I don’t take it seriously. Recently, she brought the issue of marriage and I told her point blank that it would not be possible.

The next morning I heard she had been taken to the hospital. She was still unconscious when I visited her at the hospital.

I told my mother about the issue and said, she would be happy to have her home.

Obaa, I have this lady at heart as a sister and I don’t have any feelings for her as a partner. Now considering the situation, I am very confused and don’t know what to do.

Duker, Amasaman.

Dear Duker,

IN your letter, you did not state what made this girl unconscious. Did she fall into coma due to broken- heart?

If so, you may be able to help in her recovery.

The problem comes from you in a way. When she was spending on you, you should have known that she was not doing it out of mere sisterly love.

She is ill and you must co-operate to get her back to normal health. She would need your attention and care in order to recover. By then, she will be able to cope with the fact that things are not what she expected to be. First things first, help her recover fully and candidly exude all your feelings to her.

Obaa Yaa

He introduced me wrongly

Published

5 days ago

April 11, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I visited my boyfriend at his office only to meet him and a young lady having a serious chat.

He politely introduced the lady to me as his workmate and also introduced me as a friend without telling the lady that I am his lover.

When he came home and I went over to spend the night, he seemed not to find any fault with what he did.

He was rather giving attitude and pretending as if I don’t even exist in his life.

I then told him I was not happy that he did not give me the proper acknowledgment as his lover.

Do you think he has something up his sleeve and did not want the lady he called workmate to know that we are lovers?

Greetings,
Araba, Mamobi.

Dear Araba,

FOR very good reasons, certain individuals would not want to publicise their love affairs. They believe love is a private matter and not for public consumption, and would prefer to run their relationships quietly.

Others also think that once they are not married and have not found the right person, there is no need introducing anyone until they are fully committed and envision a lifetime relationship.

So you cannot immediately judge the motive of your boyfriend for not introducing you appropriately, although it is also possible that he could have feelings for the other lady.

However, do not get worked up. Stay calm, and with time, the truth will become clear.

Obaa Yaa

My wife wants 2 more children

Published

5 days ago

April 11, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I HAVE been married for five years with three children. They are two boys and a girl.

Due to the economic situation prevailing in the country, I advised my wife to stop making babies. This is to enable us to cater for them and give them the best of education.

Unfortunately, my wife is not in agreement with the proposal but is bent on having two more children before she ends it.

As a result, she has stopped taking the family planning precautions and wants us to have unprotected sex.

I am contemplating going in for vasectomy which will make me unable to produce children but all the same enjoy our sex life.

My fear is that if my wife discovers that she is not getting pregnant, she may be tempted to cheat on me.

Please advise me.

Amevi, Ho.

Dear Amevi,

THE Bible says the two shall be one. In my opinion, one person cannot decide on the number of children to have.

There must be a mutual understanding between the two of you. You must be more communicative to agree on what will suit both of you.

You must be able to convince your wife that the economic situation is not favourable for more children. And you must make her know that until your (both of you) financial circumstances improve, more children will be a burden on the family.

If she insists on more children, then she must justify it with an increase in her income and her willingness to take up the extra burden.

If she cannot justify it, then you can go for your vasectomy and let her know. That way, I think she cannot cheat on you and bring you a pregnancy that belongs to another person.