Relationship
Some signs you’re with a good man
Many women think “real men” don’t exist. That’s certainly not true. Chivalry is still alive, and very much so. A few bad people can make many reasonable people look bad, it’s just the way things are, and it’s pretty sad.
Below are some of the signs to know if you are with a good man.
He respects you for who you are
A true gentleman will always respect you for who you are, for your individuality, for the person you represent. He will never try changing you into someone else for his own selfish reasons. He will make sure you feel proud about the person you are and he’s going to try with all his power and will. A real man will respect the decisions you make and will not criticise you every step of the way, and if you ever fail, he will never bring it up, he will rather make sure you never give up and keep following your dreams every day.
He loves your intelligence more than your looks
A smart man knows that beauty is very temporary, and among other things, it is bound to fade away. He knows what’s more essential, he doesn’t fall in love with you solely because of how you look, he falls in love with you because of who you are, because of your intelligence, because of your humour, because of how you make him feel, he’s not one to pay heed to whether you’re wearing the right amount of makeup or wearing the best dress possible, he is going to love you in your pyjamas, and he’s going to tell you often not to wear any makeup.
He gives more than he expects
A real man is genuinely selfless. He knows selfless deeds have a higher reward, and selfless deeds never go unnoticed. Selfless deeds give him a sense of happiness that nothing else can. He knows love is not about equal give and take. Sometimes the ratio may get a bit imbalanced, and that’s okay in his eyes because he’ll still do the most he can do for you. He will keep giving you his 100 per cent regardless of how you treat him because he will never give up on the relationship.
He will never give up on you
A real man knows the importance of every relationship, be it family or otherwise. He knows that love is no joke. He knows how to cherish your feelings and will try his best to take care of them and preserve them with all of his power. A true gentleman will never give up on you regardless of the fights, regardless of the traumas, regardless of the ups and downs, he will stay strong and have faith in the love the two of you share, because faith is what drives us all, those without faith are those who live empty and emotionless lives.
To be continued.
Navigating social media boundaries as a couple can be a tricky task. With the constant access to our loved ones’ lives that social media provides, it’s important to establish clear boundaries to ensure a healthy and trusting relationship. Here are some tips to help couples manage social media use.
1. Have an Open and Honest Conversation
The first step in setting boundaries on social media is to talk openly and honestly with your partner about how you both feel regarding social media usage. These conversations can be challenging but are essential for maintaining understanding and trust.
2. Be Specific
When discussing boundaries, be specific about the behaviour that bothers you and what you would like to change.
- Instead of saying, “You spend too much time on social media,” try:
“I feel neglected when you are on your phone for extended periods during our conversations. Can we set a limit on phone usage during quality time together?”
3. Be Considerate
Respect and understand your partner’s point of view. The goal is not to control each other, but to create a healthy balance that strengthens the relationship.
4. Agree on Social Media Etiquette
Social media etiquette involves setting clear guidelines for how you and your partner will interact online. This may include:
- Whether you will follow each other on social media.
- What kinds of photos or posts are acceptable.
- How to interact with friends, family, or others online.
Privacy is key in these discussions.
5. Respect Each Other’s Privacy
Respecting privacy is one of the most critical aspects of social media boundaries:
- Do not snoop on your partner’s social media accounts.
- Avoid sharing personal information about them.
- Don’t post pictures or updates they may be uncomfortable with.
6. Don’t Use Social Media as a Measure of Your Relationship
Social media often highlights only the “best moments” of relationships. Avoid comparing your relationship to others online.
- Focus on your unique relationship and its successes.
- Remember that every relationship faces its own challenges and joys.
Conclusion
Setting boundaries on social media is crucial for a healthy, happy relationship. Key factors include:
- Open and honest communication.
- Respect for each other’s privacy.
- Avoiding comparisons using social media as a benchmark.
By prioritising these practices, couples can strengthen trust, intimacy, and emotional connection while navigating the digital world together.
Source: Arkansas Relationship Counselling Centre
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In the realm of romantic relationships, vulnerability and openness are often misconstrued as signs of weakness. However, research in psychology and relationship counselling suggests that embracing vulnerability can be a powerful catalyst for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening bonds.
Vulnerability involves sharing our innermost thoughts, feelings, and desires with our partner, making us susceptible to potential hurt or rejection. Yet, it is precisely this openness that allows us to build trust, foster empathy, and create a sense of safety in our relationships.
When couples prioritise vulnerability, they often experience a profound shift in their relationship dynamics. For instance, a couple I counselled who were struggling to connect after a recent move found that sharing their fears and anxieties with each other helped them rebuild their emotional intimacy. By being open about their struggles, they were able to support each other and strengthen their bond.
Benefits of Vulnerability and Openness
- Deeper Understanding: By sharing our thoughts and feelings, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our partner.
- Increased Empathy: When we are open about our struggles, our partner is more likely to respond with compassion and support.
- Resilience: Vulnerability helps us develop coping mechanisms and learn to navigate challenges together.
- Authentic Connection: By being our authentic selves, we create a sense of mutual understanding and connection.
Cultivating Vulnerability
So, how can we cultivate vulnerability in our relationships? Here are some practical tips:
- Start Small: Begin by sharing your thoughts and feelings in low-stakes situations, like discussing a book or movie. Gradually share more personal aspects of yourself as you become comfortable.
- Practice Active Listening: When your partner shares their vulnerabilities, respond with empathy and understanding. This helps create a safe space for open communication.
- Be Present: Focus on the present moment and let go of distractions. This will help you stay engaged and responsive to your partner’s needs.
- Show Appreciation: Express gratitude for your partner’s vulnerability and celebrate their courage in sharing their thoughts and feelings.
In many successful relationships, couples have reported that regular “check-ins” or meaningful conversations help them stay connected and build a stronger bond. By prioritising vulnerability and openness, couples are better able to address life’s challenges together, fostering a deeper sense of connection and intimacy.
Vulnerability and openness are essential components of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. By embracing these qualities, we can build stronger, more resilient bonds with our partners.
As we navigate the complexities of relationships, let us remember that vulnerability is not a weakness, but a strength that can bring us closer to ourselves and our loved ones.
To be continued…
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” by Rev. Counselor Prince Offei
(Lecturer, Published Author, Mental Health Professional, and Marriage Counsellor)
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